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2011-08-08T04:44:00.000-07:00

Ibimenyetso 5 Bigaragaza ko Umukobwa Akureshya

2011-07-20T08:45:00.000-07:00

Umukobwa burya nawe arabenguka. Dore ibimenyetso bitanu bizakwereka ko yakubengutse

1. Agerageza kugusetsa no kugusekera

Umukobwa wagukunze ntiyifuza kukubona ubabaye n’umunsi n’umwe, bityo bigatuma yumva yakubwira amagambo agushimisha rimwe na rimwe akabikora kugira ngo akubone useka.

2. Agusaba ko musohokana

Mushobora kuba mwari inshuti zisanzwe, mukorana , mwigana se cyangwa hari ibindi bintu bibahuza , nyuma ukumva atangiye kujya agusaba ko mwasohoka mwenyine .

3. Ibimenyetso by’umubiri

Nubona umukubwa yinjiye ahantu uri akakwicira ijisho atavuze, akagukubita agashyi, akagukora mu mugongo ujye umenya ko hari ikintu kidasanzwe arimo kukwereka.

4. Azakubwira ko Akunda Imico Yawe

Umukobwa nakubwira ko yikundira imico yawe azaba akubwiye ko agukunda. Nibwo buryo bwe bwo kuvuga ko agukunda

5. Akugira Inama z'Ubuzima

Nuganira n’umukobwa wakubengutse uzajya wumva arimo kukugira inama z’ubuzima, akwereka icyo wakora kikakugirira akamaro n’icyo utagomba gukora. Ibi kandi ntabwo azabikora yabifatiye umwanya munini ahubwo azabikubwira igihe mu

Impamvu 5 Zituma Umugabo Wawe Aguca Inyuma

2011-06-21T01:44:00.000-07:00

1. Umugabo atangira kumva urugo rwe rutamuhaza

Igihe kiragera umwanya munini w’umugore akawumara yita ku bana, bityo umugabo agatangira kwitabwaho gake gashoboka bigatuma yumva hari icyo abura, akumva rwa rukundo yahabwaga rwaragabanutse ndetse agatangira kumva atishimiye kuba mu rugo rwe.

2. Umugore aba atakiyitaho

Iyo umugore amaze igihe kinini ashatse ageraho akagabanya uburyo yiyitagaho, ni ukuvuga ko agabanya ibyo yisigaga, umusatsi ntabe akiwitaho nk’ibisanzwe n’ibindi yakoraga mbere akiri inkumi akabigabanya cyangwa akabihagarika burundu. Ibi rero bituma umugabo abonako umugore we ashaje ndetse anasa nabi bigatangira gutuma atangira gukururwa n’abakobwa bakiri bato kandi basa neza.

3. Umugabo arashaka guhindura cyangwa kuvanga

Iyo umugabo atangiye kurambirwa gukorera imibonano mu rugo aba atangiye no kumva arambiwe no kuyikorana n’umuntu umwe akumva yahindura cyangwa akavanga. Ikindi kandi akenshi abagore ntibaba bazi guhindurira abagabo babo iyo bari gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina.

4. Ashobora kuba atarigeze kunda umugore we

Ibi biterwa ahanini n’uko hari abantu bashakana badakundana ahubwo bagahitamo kureba inyungu zabo ku giti cyabo cyangwa inyungu z’imiryango y’abo. Iyo rero bamaze kubana hari igihe umugabo atangira kumva umugore babana atari we bari bakwiye kubana bigatuma atangira kujya hanze kuko hari gihe aba yumva batahita batandukana ako kanya agahitamo kujya amuca inyuma ngo yishimishe.

5. Ingeso

Hari igihe umugabo aba nta kintu yabuze iwe mu rugo, ibintu byose bihari, umugore amufata neza yemwe no mu mibonano mpuzabitsina bigenda neza ariko ugasanga rimwe na rimwe atanyurwa n’ibyo umugore amukorera ahubwo ugasanga afite umutima wo kumuca inyuma no gushaka guheheta mu bandi bagore. Iyi ni ingeso aba yisanganiwe muri we.

Impamvu 6 Zituma Abantu Bifuza Gushinga Urugo

2011-06-21T00:52:00.000-07:00

Gushaka ni kimwe mu bintu byerekana urukundo ruba ruri hagati y’umugabo n’umugore cyangwa se umusore n’inkumi maze rukajya ku mugaragaro abantu bakabimenya. Mu masezerano y’ urukundo buri wese yemerera undi ko bazabana mu byiza no mu bibi, mu bukire no mu bukene, barwaye cyangwa se ari bazima. Abenshi banongeraho ko bazabana kugeza bapfuye. Ibi ubibonye cyangwa ubyumvise ushobora kugira ngo biroroshye, ariko ntabwo ari ibintu byoroshye kugirango abantu bazabashe kubana mu mahoro no mu munezero w’urugo kugeza bapfuye kuko harimo nabo binanira bagatandukana kandi bari babyiyemeje.

Dore zimwe mu mpamvu zituma abantu bashaka umugabo cyangwa umugore.

1. Gukunda no gushaka gukundwa

Abantu bakundana iyo batarabana cyangwa se batarashakana ntibishimira uburyo baba banyemo kuko bataba babana iminsi yose. Ikindi kandi banafata umwanya wo gutekereza uko abandi bababona; ibi rero bimarwa no kubana kuko ari bwo buri wese yumva akunzwe ndetse akanabyiyumvamo nta n’ikindi yikanga .

2.Gushaka umuketakano no kwitabwaho bihagije

Iyo umuntu ashatse aba yumva afite umutekano uhagije mu buryo bitandukanye. Abagore cyane cyane iyo barongowe baba bumva bacitse ibibazo byinshi kuko kenshi na kenshi iyo bakiri ingaragu bahura n’ibibazo byinshi bishingiye ku miterere yabo. Urugero: bashobora gukorerwa ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina cyangwa se bakumva ubuzima bwa gikobwa butabashimishije.

Izo mbogamizi zose rero zigatuma bakoresha uko bashoboye kugira ngo bashake maze babone umutekano.

Abagabo nabo baba bumva bashaka abantu babitaho bababaza amakuru, mbega babakorera ibyo bashaka byose. Ikindi kandi iyo umugabo abona hari umuntu umwereka ko amwitayeho. Ibi biramushimisha cyane.

3. Gushaka umutuzo n’umunezero

Umunezero n’umutuzo nabyo biri mu bintu bituma abantu bashaka kuko baba bumva bizatuma bishimira ubuzima.

4. Gushaka kugira umuryango

Iyo umuntu ataragira umuryango, ni ukuvuga umugore/umugabo uzwi mu mategeko n’abana, usanga yumva atubashywe kabone n’iyo yaba afite amafaranga menshi, akuze se cyangwa afite umwana ariko mu buryo butazwi. Buri gihe abayumva hari ikintu kibura akagerageza gushaka uburyo yakuzuza ibyo yumva akeneye byose birimo no kubahwa nk’umubyeyi cyangwa se umuntu ufite urugo.

5. Kwikura mu bwigunge

Abantu benshi iyo batarashaka baba bumva hari ukuntu baba mu bwigunge. Nk’iyo umuntu akora yava ku kazi akabura umuntu umwakira cyangwa n’umwakiriye ntamwakire nk’uko abyifuza ngo ahita yumva yigunze maze akumva yifuje kubana n’umuntu umukunda kandi umuhora hafi.

6.Kugabanya inshingano

Hari gihe umuntu yireba maze ngo agasanga afite ibintu byinshi agomba gukora, muri make afite inshingano nyinshi kandi agomba kuzuza. Iyo bimeze bityo rero atangira kubona ko atari ngombwa ko ibyo bintu byose yabyikorera ku mutwe we wenyine maze agahitamo gushaka umuntu uzajya umufasha akamutiza imbaraga yaba mu bitekerezo cyangwa bukungu

Uburyo 10 bwo Kwereka Umukunzi wawe ko Umukunda kuri St Valentin Udakoresheje Amafaranga

2011-05-06T01:14:00.000-07:00

Dore uburyo 10 wabwira umukunzi ko umukunda kandi nta faranga na rimwe utanze cyangwa se utanze make. Igihe bibaye ngombwa ko umwereka ko umukunda ariko washiriwe!

1. Indirimbo

Shaka indirimbo uzi ko uwo ukunda akunda kumva maze uyimwoherereze, haba kuri CD, kaseti (tape) cyangwa kuri e-mail, niba mutari kumwe. Niba ahari uyishyiremo muyumvane cyangwa se munayiririmbane.

2. Indabyo zo mu busitani

Niba wari ufite impungenge z’ uko utazabona ubushobozi bwo kugurira umukunzi wawe amaroza kuko wenda ahenze cyane, burya nta muntu wavuze ko ugomba gutanga amaroza. Ushobora no gutanga izindi ndabyo wakura nko mu busitani bw’ aho uba cyangwa se ukanazigura kuko hari izihendutse cyane kuko burya indabyo zisanzwe nazo zishimisha nk’izo umuntu aba yaguze. Si ngombwa kandi ko uzohereza ku ya 14 Gashyantare kuko atari itegeko; uzibonye na mbere ho gato cyangwa nyuma nabyo ni byiza.

3. Ikorere ubwawe impano aho kuzigura

Ibintu nka Chocola, gateaux n’ ibindi bigurwa abantu bakunda gutanga nk’impano kuri Sait Valentin usanga bihenze, nyamara kubyikorera bishoboka. Ushobora rero gusoma uko ibi bintu bikorwa ubundi ukagura ibikoresho ukabyikorera utanze amafaranga make cyane. Ibi kandi ngo bishimisha uwo ukunda cyane kuko abona ko wafashe umwanya wawe ukamukorera impano uko ubishoboye. Ibi ariko si ibintu ukora imburagihe ahubwo ni byiza ko ubitangira hakiri kare kuko uba utabimenyereye kugira ngo hato utavaho ubyica.

4.Impano isanzwe nayo igaragaza urukundo

Uretse ibyo amatangazo avuga mu rwego rwo gukurura abaguzi, burya za diamand cyangwa se ibindi bintu bihenze nta bwo ari byo bituma uwo ukunda akwihebera. Fata amafaranga ufite ubundi umugurire nk’ udukomo, amaherena, cyangwa se impeta iri ku giciro ushoboye. Burya nabyo biramushimisha cyane.

4. Saint Valentin ushobora kuyizihiza umunsi uwo ariwo wose

Uretse ko hafi isi yose iwizihiza ku ya 14 Gashyantare, nta tegeko ririho ritegeka kwizihiza umunsi w’abakundana kuri uwo munsi. Bitewe n’ ubushobozi ndetse n’ umwanya, ushobora kwizihiza uyu munsi icyumweru mbere cyangwa se icyumweru nyuma y’iyi tariki.

Uwitwa Reader Witold yavuze ko we n’ umufasha we bizihiza uyu munsi ku ya 21 Gashyantare kuko aribwo babasha kubona ahantu heza ho gusohokera kandi n’ impano nk’ indabo zikaba zidahenze cyane nk’ uko biba bimeze ku munsi wa Saint Valentin nyirizina.

6. Gutanga amafaranga menshi ku tuntu duto bishobora gutuma wicuza

Impano y’ umunsi wa Saint Valentin igomba kuba koko ari impano ureba ukabona ko uyiguhaye akubwira ati: “Nkwitayeho kurusha bose”. Ushobora kumutunguza iyi mpano ari ku kazi, wambaye imyenda yawe myiza; ibi bizamushimisha cyane. Fata ifoto yanyu mwembi mukunda ubundi uyikoreshe ku buryo igaragara neza ubundi uyishyire nko muri cadre (frame) ubundi uyimuhe. Ibi bizamushimisha cyane. Hari abishima cyane ubahaye ikintu gito kandi gisanzwe nk’ umugati wa sandwich.

7. Urukundo rwanyu ntabwo ruzapfa, shaka rero akantu kazahoraho mu gihe mukiriho

Niba ufashe umwanya wawe ugashushanya ikarita uko ubishoboye n’ intoki zawe, bizashimisha cyane uwo ukunda kurusha uko wajya mu isoko ukagura carte postal maze ukandikaho interuro nke. Niba ufite amabara nayo uyakoreshe kugira ngo agashushanyo kawe karusheho kugaragara neza.

8. Mwigumire mu rugo mwirebere filime

Benshi barasohoka, namwe mushobora kuba mwarasohotse inshuro zitari nke. Niba uyu munsi mudafite ubushobozi bwo kuba mwasohoka ntabwo ijuru riguye. Kubera akazi ntabwo ukunda kumarana igihe n’ umukunzi wawe. Uyu munsi rero kora ikidasanzwe ubundi wirirwane n’ uwo ukunda wenda munirebere filime mwembi.

9. Ihitiremo akandi kantu mwakora

Burya nta gikorwa cy’ urukundo cyaruta gushaka ikintu gishya mwakora mwembi kandi nta mafaranga mutanze. Urugero, ushobora kureba ahantu habereye ibirori kwinjira ari ubuntu ubundi muhagere. Nabyo birashimisha.

10. Gusomana ku buryo budasanzwe no guhoberana nabyo biba bikenewe kuri uyu munsi

Ushobora gusoma umukunzi wawe mu buryo bwinshi butandukanye kandi uteri usanzwe ukoresha mu gihe wabaga uri kumusoma. Urugero: niba wamusomaga ku munwa gusa uhindure umusome no ku ntoki cyangwa ahandi hose ushaka ku mubiri we kandi n’umuhobera ubikore ku buryo abyumva ntibibe bya bindi byo kumuhobera usa n’umwikiza. Guhobera umuntu ntibigurwa mu iduka kandi ntibinasaba ingufu nyinshi, muhobere ku buryo azahora abikwishyuza ati “mpobera nkuko wampobeye kuri saint valentin”. Nuba uri kumuhobera uzanibuke kandi kumubwira amagambo meza y’urukundo, ya yandi amuryohera mu matwi akumva wakomeza ukayamubwira.

Uburyo 6 Wakwitwaramo Usohokanye n'Umukunzi Ubwa Mbere

2011-05-06T01:07:00.000-07:00

Abantu benshi, basohokana n’abantu, banabafiteho agatekerezo, ariko akenshi bikarangira nta n’umwe muri bo umenye uko bigenze, ndetse niba hari nk’akajambo (nka Ndagukunda) yateganyaga kukubwira bikaza kurangira yifashe.

Ese biterwa n’iki? Ese ni iki gituma umuntu ashobora guhindura igitekerezo yari agufiteho kandi mu bigaragara ubona nta kosa wamukoreye?

1. Ambara uko bikwiye

Ku mukobwa biba byiza kwambara imyenda y’ibara ryoroshye, ridahita ryigaragaza cyane , ukaba utisize cyane ku munwa no ku ngohe bijya biranga abakobwa benshi.

Ku muhungu na we biba byiza kwambara nk’ ishati y’ibara ry’umweru, ukaba uhumura neza, ariko nta bikabyo byinshi. Ni byiza ko uba wiyogoshesheje umusatsi n’ubwanwa, mbese ukeye kandi ugaragara neza.

2. Gerageza kwirinda kuvuga ku bintu bikomeye kandi bitumvikanwaho kimwe n’abantu benshi ahubwo mwiganirire ibindi bisanzwe hato bitaza gukurura impaka hagati yanyu mwembi.

3. Irinde kuvuga kuri Politiki

Igihe wasohokanye n’umuntu bwa mbere, utaramenya ibyo akunda n’ibyo yanga, wirinde kuvuga ku ishyaka runaka ufana cyangwa iryo wanga, wirinde kuvuga ku bintu bijyanye n’imyemerere, n’umuco, … kuko hari igihe umuntu ahita yumva atakikwisanzuyeho bitewe n’ibyo urimo kuvugaho.

4. Mu kuganira si byiza kuvuga ku biryo kuko hari igihe ushobora gusanga nk’ikintu wowe wanga wumva nta n’undi wakirya, we aricyo yikundira, bityo ukaba usa n’umuhutaje.

Urugero: ushobora nko kwibaza ku bantu barya inzoka, ukaba wanabavugaho nabi, kandi wenda nawe azirya, bityo ntabe akikwisanzuyeho cyangwa ngo yumve ko hari aho ibyanyu bishobora kugera, akihitiramo kwicecekera ngo hato utamusubiza inyuma kubera ko mudahuje.

5. Mwumve kandi umuhe igihe cyo kuvuga

Hari abantu bafite ingeso yo kuvuga cyane ku buryo abandi baba bari kumwe bananirwa kuvuga cyangwa se bakumva ibintu byose byavuzwe nta kindi barenzaho, ibi jya ubyirinda cyane cyane iyo utaramenyana n’umuntu neza, ngo umenye uko ateye, umenye ibyo yanga n’ibimushimisha.

6. Mwereke ko wishimiye ko muba muri kumwe gusa ariko wirinde kurengera

Ni byiza ko wereka uwo mwasohokanye ko wishimiye ubutumire bwe, aho yakujyanye n’ibyo mwaganiriye, ariko utabikabije cyane ku buryo abona ko icyo gihe iyo kitabaho, wari guhomba byinshi.

Niba kandi uwo muntu nawe wari usanzwe umwiyumvamo, ariko wenda warabuze aho umuhera, uyu ni umwanya mwiza wo kumwemerera urukundo arimo kugusaba.

Niba kandi wowe utarigeze ubitekerezaho, si byiza ko uhita umwemerera nyuma ukazicuza utakibishoboye, cyangwa se ngo uhite umuhakanira kandi nyuma nubona abandi bamwitwariye usigare uririra mu myotsi.

Ahubwo ibyiza ni ukumubwira ko ugiye gufata umwanya nk’uwo nawe yafashe abitekerezaho, hanyuma numara kubitekerezaho bihagije umuhamagare, umubwire igisubizo cyawe nta soni ufite kuko gukunda umuntu nta soni na nke biteye.

Intambwe 10 wakoresha kugira ngo ubone Umusore wakubera inshuti

2011-05-06T00:56:00.000-07:00

Ushobora kuba wicaye ugatekereza ugasanga ukeneye umuhungu ukubera inshuti cyangwa se ukeneye undi umuhungu w’inzozi zawe.
Dore ibintu by’ingenzi ugomba kugenderaho bikagufasha kubonma inshuti y’umuhungu :

1. Niba ubonye umusore wishimiye gerageza kumwenyura umwereka ko urangwa n’inseko nziza

Abagabo benshi bakururwa n’inseko z’abakobwa. Niba ubonye umusore ukumva umwibonyemo kandi yakubera umukunzi, ntuzigere uzuyaza kumusekera kuko burya n’ubwo uba ntacyo umubwiye n’umunwa uba utanze ubutumwa bukomeye cyane butagira ijambo (non-verbal message). Iyo ubikoze gutyo bituma yumva yatera intambwe ya mbere akubaza amakuru yawe.

2. Gerageza kwiyoroshya (be approachable)

Aha ngaha niba uri inkumi ugakubitana n’umusore w’inzozi zawe, ukabona ari umuhungu ukunda kuganiriza abakobwa, wowe uza mureke ntugire icyo ukora gusa ujye ugerageza kumusekera, kumureba indoro nziza ndetse nibiba ngombwa unacishemo umwicire akajisho hanyuma ukomeze ukore ibyo wakoraga; yewe niba wanagendaga wikomereze urugendo. Gusa ariko ibi byose ugomba kubikora mu kinyabupfura kandi ugashyiramo n’ubwenge, ukamenya niba uko uteye byamaze gukurura uwo musore. Ibi numara kubigeraho; umusore wamaze kumwemeza, ibindi bisigaye we azabyikorera. Gusa uzakomeze wiyoroshye kugira ngo ejo utamuca intege akisubirirayo.

3. Gerageza gutuma umusore avuga (Mwinjize mu kiganiro)

Umuhungu ntiyapfa kumenya niba wishimye cyangwa ubabaye, nyamara wowe ukeneye ko abimenya. Niba muvuganye, gerageza umuganirize ku buryo mutandukana agishaka kukuganiriza ndetse afite n’amatsiko yo ku kumenya kurushaho. Jya ushaka uko waryoshya nicyo kiganiro, umubwire ariko ukore ku buryo umusiga agikeneye kukumenya kurushaho.

- Nk’igitsina-gore, gerageza kwiyoroshya umere nk’uko bisanzwe, n’ubwo bitoroshye kwitwara uko usanzwe mu gihe uhuye n’umuhungu wakunze. Muri iki gihe, ujye ugerageza kuvuga ururimi usanzwe ukoresha kandi unavuge amagambo yoroshye, yumvikana. Ikindi ugomba kwitaho ni ukagerageza gukurikiranya ibitekerezo neza kandi ubiha ubusobanuro bwiza. Ibi byose ubikora kugirango uwo muganira aryoherwe koko.

- Gusa ariko, ibi ntibivuze kuvuga amagambo menshi icyarimwe ngo undi abure akanya ko kuvuga anarambirwe. Si icyo bivuze, habe na mba. Vuga amagambo make ariko arimo ubwenge ashobora gutuma uwo muganira agira amatsiko bikamutera kukubaza ibibazo byinshi; noneho wowe ukagenda umusubiza ikibazo ku kindi. Mu kumusubiza, gerageza kujya umushyira mu gihirahiro ari nabyo bizatuma ashaka umwanya munini wo kukuganiriza.

4. Shaka ikintu wivugaho, cyangwa se umubwire amateka y’ubuzima bwawe

Niba uhuye n’umuhungu ubona wazakubera inshuti ku buryo bwimbitse, gerageza kumwibwira nibura ho gato ku buzima bwawe. Ushobora kumubwira ibyo ukunda cyangwa ibyo wanga cyangwa se ukamubwira inkuru y’ibintu wabonye n’ibyo waciyemo.

5. Reka yiyumve nk’uw’agaciro

Aho kugira ngo ukomeze kwivuga ibigwi wowe wenyine, gerageza no kwereka uwo muri kuganira ko afite agaciro imbere yawe kandi nawe umuhe umwanya akwibwire anakuganirize. Ikindi kandi niba hari ikintu afite utakunze reka guhita ubimwereka ako kanya bitamuca intege.

6. Reka kumujora umusesereza

Hari uburyo bwiza ushobora kunenga umuntu ariko utamukomerekeje; uburyo ukoresha rero nta bundi ni ukumuganiriza mugaseka kuko ushobora gukosora umuntu ubicishize mu rwenya. Ikindi ni uko ushobora nawe gushaka uburyo bundi wabikoramo ariko butamutera kumva ko wafashe umwanya umugenzura..

7. Irinde uburakari bwa hato na hato

Niba avuze ibintu ntibigushimishe, reka kwitwara nk’umwana muto ngo uhite wirakaza. Gerageza ahubwo guhita ushaka uburyo bwiza bwo kumugarura mu biganiro bikuryohera maze nawe ahite abona ko ibyo yari akoze atari byiza.

Muri iki gihe ntuzagire ubwoba bwo kuba wamukura muri icyo kiganiro utakunze cyangwa ibyo yita urwenya kandi bitari kukunyura kuko numwihorera azumva ko ari byiza ubutaha azabisubire. Gusa uzibuke kumukebura mu kinyabupfura kugira ngo utamukomeretsa.

8. Mugenere umwanya muri gahunda zawe

Kimwe mu bintu bikomeza ubucuti ni uguha umusore ukunda umwanya mu byo ukora kuko urukundo rusaba igihe. Numwihorera ntumuhe umwanya bizatuma nawe yigira muri gahunda ze zitandukanye no mu zindi nshuti ze bityo n’ urukundo rwanyu ntirukure ngo rutere imbere. Ushobora kuba udakunda kuboneka ariko gerageza umuhe akanya gato bizatuma abona ko afite akamaro mu buzima bwawe. Ujye umushakira n’ahantu heza ho kuganirira kugira ngo abone umwanya wo kugutekerezaho kuko ushobora gusanga nawe yari yarasanze uri umukobwa w’inzozi ze. ni byiza kandi ni na ngombwa ko umuha umwanya wo kumva ko akwegereye kandi ko umuri hafi.

9. Ba uwo uriwe

Niba uri kuganira n’umuntu cyangwa se niba ushaka ko umuntu agukunda geragaza kuba uwo uriwe (be yourself), ntushake kwifata/kwitwara nka runaka wundi. Mu gihe uzaba ushaka kwigira uwo uteri we bizatuma wumva udatekanye muri wowe kuko hari undi umuntu uzaba ushaka kwigira we bitandukanye n’uko uri. Gushaka kwigira uwo uteri we bizatuma unanirwa kumuganiriza, bitumen n’ubushuti bwanyu butaramba.

10. Mwereke ko umwitayeho

Gerageza kumwereka ko ibyo arimo kuvuga bigushimisha niba kandi bitarimo kugushimisha ba imfura umubwire ko ibintu arimo kuvuga bitari kukubaka; ubimubwire umwenyura aho kuvuga wazinze umunya.

Icyo usabwa kwibuka ni ukuba uwo uriwe buri gihe ubonanye n’umusore ukunda cyangwa ubona uzagukunda. Irinde gukoresha amagambo arimo imibonano mpuzabitsina cyane mu magambo uvuga kuko ashobora guhita abona ko ari cyo wishakira.

Uzibuke ko uburanga bw’inyuma atari byose ku musore kandi wirinde guhangayikishwa n’umubano wanyu mu gihe utarakomera; hejuru y’ibyou urenze ho kwiyoroshya no kwiha umutuzo (relax).

Ikitonderwa

- Ntuzakore ibintu uzicuza mu buzima bwawe bwose,

- Shaka umuhungu kuko wumva umukeneye kandi ukareba uzakuba iruhande rwawe buri gihe,

- Ntuzicuze igihe uzabona ubushuti bwanyu bugupfanye kuko igihe kiba kizagera ukabona undi kandi w’inzozi zawe,

- Ntuzatume aguhindura mu buryo bwo kugusubiza inyuma, ntuzabyemere kuko azaba atagukunda,

- Uzirinde gukora ibintu bidahwitse mu maso y’umusore ukunda kuko bishobora kukuviramo kubengwa ako kanya.

Intambwe 8 wakoresha kugira ngo ubone umukobwa wakubera inshuti

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Niba rero uri umusore ukaba wumva ugeze igihe cyo kugira umukobwa w’inshuti, ni ukuvuga umukobwa mwagirana ubucuti budasanzwe (Girlfriend), hari ibintu bishobora kugufasha kubona umukobwa muhuza. Ushobora kandi kuba utaranigeze ujarajara mu bakobwa benshi ariko noneho ukaba wumva igihe kigeze nyamara ukumva utazi aho wahera wegera umukobwa kandi nyamara umwibonamo.

1. Tangira uterete kandi ushyiremo imbaraga umunsi ku munsi

Ibi bivuze ko niba utangiye gutereta, waganiriza umukobwa umunsi wa mbere bikakugendekera neza naho umunsi wa kabiri bikanga ntabwo ugomba guhita ucika intege ahubwo icyo ugomba kureba ni uburyo wakoresheje umwegera (approaches) byaba na ngombwa ukaba wahindura. Gerageza uhindure uburyo; wenda niba waramusanze iwabo, ku ncuro ya kabiri reba uko mwaganira mwasohokeye ahantu hakeye hatari ahabonetse bose.

2. Hitamo ijwi uzajya umuganirizamo

Kugira ngo urukundo rwanyu rukure ugomba kumenya uburyo uzajya uganiriza umukunzi wawe ndetse n’ijwi uzajya ukoresha kugira ngo umwereke ko uri inshuti idasanzwe cyangwa se y’umwihariko. Muri iryo jwi ryiza riyunguruye niho uzerekanira agaciro kawe ndetse n’iyo mwaba mwari musanzwe muziranye bizatuma ahindura uburyo yagufataga ahite yumva ko hari icyahindutse.

3. Ugomba kubaka ubucuti bwanyu ku buryo budasanzwe

Mu gihe urebye inkumi ukabona yakubera inshuti ugomba kuyereka ko umukeneyeho ubucuti mu buryo butandukanye n’ubusanzwe; ni ukuvuga ko ugomba kumuha umwanya ukamwereka ko umwitayeho, ukamuganiriza ibintu bituma atakurambirwa. Gerageza kugenda umwereka udushya, umukorere ibintu atakekagag ako wamukorera umunsi ku munsi kuva utangiye gahunda yawe yo kumutereta.

4. Banza umwereke ko wamubera inshuti bisanzwe mbere yo kumwereka ko wamubera boyfriend

Ikintu kijya kigora abahungu ni uburyo bwo gukurura abakobwa mu gihe barimo gutereta. Mbere yo gutangira umubwira ko yakubera inshuti idasanzwe banza byibura unamwereke ko wamubera inshuti no mu buzima busanzwe (ubuzima bwa buri munsi) kuko aba asanzwe abana n’abahungu benshi. Gerageza umwereke ko hari ikintu utandukaniyeho n’abandi ahora abona cyangwa abana nabo, mbese umwereke ubucuti nyabwo.

5. Ugomba kwikuramo ubwoba

Impamvu ugomba kwikuramo ubwoba ni uko ushobora kuba ufite amafaranga, uri mwiza, ureba neza, uri umuntu w’icyamamare ahantu utuye, ariko ukaba wabura umukobwa wagira incuti kubera gutinya kumubwira akakuri ku mutima. Ikindi kandi ubwoba butuma umuntu atigirira icyizere no mu buzima busanzwe, bikaba bishobora kugusubiza inyuma mu byo ukora.

6. Menya uburyo wegera umukobwa n’uburyo umubwira ko umukunda

Ikigaragara ni uko hari bamwe mu basore bagenda bagahita babwira abakobwa ko babakunda gutyo gusa (bagasa n’ababibatura hejuru batabanje kubateguza), ugomba gushaka umwanya uhagije n’uburyo bwo kubivugamo niba ushaka ko icyifuzo cyawe cyakirwa neza. Nta bwo ari byiza kugenda ugahita ubwira umukobwa ngo “ndagukunda”,geregeza ushake uburyo bwiza wamubwiramo ko umukunda aho kuza ubimutura hejuru kuko ashobora gukeka ko utabikomeje.

Ugomba kandi kumenya ibihe umukobwa arimo kuko ushobora kumusaba urukundo ari mu bihe bibi bigatuma atabyitaho; urumva rero ko ugomba kubanza guperereza ukamenya niba ari mu bihe bye byiza byamufasha kwakira icyifuzo cyawe kandi akacyitaho.

7. Umukobwa naguhakanira bwa mbere ntuzacike intege

Umukobwa naguhakanira ku munsi wa mbere ntuzahite ucika intege ku ikubitiro, ngo wumve ko byarangiye. Iki ni ikintu cy’ingenzi niba ushaka kubona umukunzi. Ugomba gukomeza kugerageza amahirwe yawe kuko abakobwa benshi ntibajya bemerera umuntu ubucuti (urukundo) ku nshuro ya mbere. Ugomba gukomeza kumwereka ko uri umugabo, ugakomeza ugahatiriza, amaherezo azagera aho abone ko umukunda utapfuye kubivuga gusa wikinira maze bimwereke ko umukunda by’ukuri nawe abonereho.

Ariko naguhakanira bwa mbere ugahita ucika intege akabona ntugarutse, azabona ko utamukundaga, mbese ko wamukinishaga.

8. Mwereke ibyiza afite ku mubiri we ariko wirinde gukabya ngo uvuge ibyo adafite

Niba umukobwa afite amaso meza cyangwa urundi rugingo rwiza ku mubiri we bimubwire kandi umubwire ko ubikunda. Urugero: Mubwire ko ukunda inseko ye niba aseka neza bikagushimisha; ibi bizatuma abona umwitaho, ko ubona igihe cyo kwicara ukamureba ukamwitegereza ndetse ukanamutekereza.

Uburyo 5 bwo Kwerekana Urukundo

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1. Amagambo meza

Amagambo meza kandi aha agaciro umukunzi wawe ni kimwe mu bintu ushobora gukora kugira ngo umugaragarize urukundo.

Ururimi burya ni ikintu gikomeye cyane, rufite ubushobozi bwo kurema ariko kandi rukanagira ubwo gusenya, niyo mpamvu mu byo uvuga niba uri kumwe n’umukunzi wawe ugomba kujya witonda. Amwe mu magambo meza twavuga ni nk’amagambo atuma umuntu amererwa neza, akaba ari amuha compliments kandi amutaka. Ari amagambo amubwira ko ari uw’agaciro, ariwe wifuza mu buzima bwawe bwose, ko nta wundi umukurutira, n’andi menshi atuma yishima.

2. Ibihe byo kuba muri kumwe, mugahana umwanya uhagije

Mujye mufata umwanya wo kurebana, kuganira, guseka... ubu ni uburyo umwe mu bakundana ashobora kuba yifuza kandi kuri we akabufata nk’aho ari bwo umugaragariza urukundo. Kuba wamuha umwanya wawe, ukamureka akakureba, akakuganiriza,.. yisanzuye, yumva ntaho ugiye kujya ngo umucike bimugaragarize ko umwitayeho kandi ko umukunda cyane. Ku bakoresha uru rurimi baba ahubwo banifuza ko ari bo ari n’abakunzi babo yewe banafunga na telefoni ku buryo nta muntu ubasagarira, bagakoresha umwanya wabo ari bombi gusa.

3. Impano

Si ngombwa ko ugira byinshi usobanurira umukunzi wawe mu gihe umuhaye impano runaka, kuko impano ubwayo iba ifite ubushobozi bwo gusobanurira umukunzi wawe icyo utekereza.

Ibyiza by’impano kandi ni uko igisobanuro cyayo kigumaho igihe cyose abona iyo mpano wamuhaye, bityo ugasanga biba byiza kurushaho gutanga impano idapfa cyangwa ngo yibagirane.

Impano kandi ntizigomba kuba zihenze cyane, kuko igishimisha umukunzi ahanini ari uburyo uyimuhaye n’igisobanuro cyayo kurusha yo ubwayo. Gusa burya ni byiza ko utanga impano utarindiriye ko haba ikintu kidasanzwe kugira ngo uyimuhe.

4. Kumuha ubufasha no kumwereka ko witeguye kumufasha igihe cyose

Ingero z’ibyo wafasha umukunzi wawe ni nyinshi. Ushobora kumuzingira imyenda wamusuye cyangwa ukanajya iwe mutabivuganye, ukamutunganyiriza icyumba cyangwa ukamutegurira ifunguro ryiza mu gihe atabyiteguye. Ibi birashoboka ku bamaze kubana ndetse yemwe no ku batararushinga bakundana. Ibi ni ibintu ushobora gukorera umukunzi yaba yabigusabye cyangwa atabigusabye.

Ushobora kandi kumva nk’ikintu avuga ko akeneye, wenda adahita apfa kubona ako kanya kubera ko gihenze cyangwa kidapfa kuboneka, ugahita ucyimushakira. Ibi bikorwa byose bituma umukunzi wawe yumva akwisanzuyeho kurushaho kandi bikamushimisha rwose.

5. Kumugaragariza urukundo umukoraho

Ku bantu bashobora kuba batumva neza ikiza cy’ubu buryo mushobora kurebera ku rugero rw’umwana w’uruhinja.

Ese ntimujya mubona umwana muto arira, hanyuma mama we cyangwa se n’undi muntu wese yamufata mu ntoki ze agahita ako kanya aceceka? Ese aho nturabona ibyishimo umwana muto agira iyo mama we amuhaye akabizu (bisou) ku itama cyangwa mu gahanga?

Natwe rero abantu bakuru bitubaho, iyo umuntu agukozeho cyangwa akaguha bizu ari inshuti yawe ni bumwe mu buryo bwiza bwo kukwereka icyo atekereza kandi nawe ubwawe bukagushimisha.

Si ibi kandi gusa, ikindi gishobora kuboneka hagati y’abakunzi muri ubu buryo ni ugukorana imibonano mpuzabitsina n’uwo mukundana.

Mbere ya byose ariko, jya ubanza wimenye ubwawe, nka bya bindi ngo mbere yo gukura agatotsi mu jisho rya mugenzi wawe, ni byiza ko ubanza ugakura umugogo uri mu jisho ryawe. Burya kumenya uburyo bushimisha umukunzi wawe ni byiza, ariko kandi burushaho kuba byiza iyo ubanje ukimenya nawe ubwawe, ukamenya ikigushimisha, ukamenya uburyo wishimira kurusha ubundi muri ubu bwose tumaze kubona haruguru ariko kandi ukiga no kumenya ururimi umukunzi wawe avuga mu rukundo.

Birashoboka ko mu rukundo waba uvuga indimi zirenze ebyiri cyangwa eshatu, ariko burya haba harimo rumwe rurusha izindi imbaraga bityo rukaba arirwo ukoresha mu rukundo cyane.

Ushobora kuba ukunda impano, ukaba ukunda ko bagusohokana ariko wenda ahanini ukaba ukunda kurushaho gutegwa amatwi n’umukunzi wawe, mukaganira, mukamarana umwanya munini kurusha ibindi byose.

Uburyo 5 bwo Kwerekana Urukundo

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Intambwe 4 zo Gusubirana n'Umukunzi Nyuma yo Gutandukana

2011-05-05T23:58:00.000-07:00

Ese wari wakunda umuntu mugatandukana, ukimwifuza, wumva ari bwo byari bigeze aharyoshye?

Gutandukana kwa benshi mu bakundanaga biterwa ahanini n’ibintu bitari binini cyane, ariko icyo bihuriyeho ni uko n’ubundi icyo bigeraho ari kimwe: gutandukanya abakundanaga!

Ese birashoboka ko wagarura uwari umukunzi wawe nyuma y’igihe kinini atakuvugisha, atakwereka ko akigukeneye?

Byashoboka se ko bya bihe byiza mwagiranaga bibagarukira nyuma y’uburyo mwatandukanye nabi?

Aha ushobora no kwibaza ibibazo byinshi biguca intege, wibaza ko niba ubwo yagusize akagenda, icyo wakoresha cyose ngo akugarukire, niba bwo wakwizera ko azahaguma nabwo atazongera ngo agucike.

Ibi byose ni ibigenda biguca intege, iyo ubitekerejeho. Ariko se niba umukunda wabuzwa n’iki gufata ‘risk’ nk’uko benshi bajya babivuga?

Nk’uko twabibonye tugitangira, impamvu nyinshi z’abagabo/Abagore baca inyuma cyangwa se banatandukana n’abakunzi babo, ahanini biterwa n’uburyo baba babitwayeho. N’ubona rero uwo wakundaga yigendeye cyangwa ukabona atakikwishimiye, jya utangira wibaze ibi bibazo:

- Ese kuba mwaratandukanye byaba ari ikose ryawe?

- Ese haba ari andi makosa wakoze, n’iyo waba utayazi cyangwa utaranayahaga uburemere?

Ahanini ni nk’igihe wakundaga kumuburanya cyane, kutamusaba imbabazi wamukoshereje n’utundi tuntu duto ariko nyamara tumuremerera we.

Niba kuba mwaratandukanye usanze byaratewe n’ikosa ryawe, aho rwose birashoboka ko wagarura umukunzi wawe mukongera mukabana urukundo rukaganza.

Usibye n’ibyo kandi aha uraza kureba uburyo wamugaragariza uburyo yahombye kuba utakiri uwe, n’uburyo wakoresha kugira ngo agaruke agukomangire ku rugi agutakambire agusaba ko mwasubirana. Ntugire ubwoba humura biroshye!

Biragusaba gukurikiza izi ntambwe gusa:

1.Reka kumwereka ko umukeneye cyane cyangwa ko ubayeho nabi adahari

Ikintu cya mbere ugomba gukora ni ukugaragaza ibitandukanye n’ibyo urimo gutekereza, cyangwa wifuza ko biba: Reka kumwereka ko wifuza ko agaruka!

Yego birasa naho bitumvikana cyangwa ko ari nko kwivuguruza, ariko ndakubwiza ukuri , uko urushaho kumugarura, ni ko nawe arushaho kuguhunga.

Muri icyo gihe rero jya ukora nk’aho ntacyo wahombye kuba yaragusize, ujye umureka ajye muri gahunda ze, akore ibyo yifuza byose, nyuma azatangira kubona impamvu agukeneye, anakwifuza mu buzima bwe, azatangira noneho kujya abona ukuntu ubuzima bubishye udahari.

Mureke akore ibyo ashaka, ajye mu bandi bagabo/bagore, batembere, basangire…, amaherezo koko niba ari uwawe azabona ko icyo yaje akurikiye iwawe nta handi akibona akugarukire.

Icyo gihe kandi numureka akaba akora ibyo yishakira byose, nawe jya wigira muri gahunda zawe, we guhora umutegereje nta gahunda mufitanye y’igihe azagarukira.

2.Iyibutse ubuzima bwawe bwiza bwa mbere y’uko ukundana n’umukunzi wawe

Muri icyo gihe wari uri kumwe n’umukunzi wawe, hari byinshi wasize inyuma. Abantu benshi iyo bafite abo bakunda, ntibaba bifuza ko bagira ahandi bajya; nta zindi nshuti baba bumva bagendana, basangira.

Iki ni igihe cyo kubisubiramo, ntukomeze kwibabaza, ahubwo ukishyiramo ko uko bimeze kose ubuzima bugomba gukomeza kandi neza, ugasubira muri bwa buzima bwagushimishaga na mbere y’uko muhura.

Iyo watandukanye n’umukunzi wawe, utangira kwibaza no gutekereza abandi bari kumwe, uti ese ubu abo yahisemo bandusha iki, yabakurikiyeho iki se? n’ibindi nk’ibyo… Yego biragoye kwibuza gutekereza kuri ibi byose iyo ukimukunda, ariko niwumva ushaka kubyirinda jya wibuka ko uwo mwanya wawe upfusha ubusa umutekerezaho, utekereza ibyo arimo, we nta n’isegonda afite ryo kugutekerezaho cyane cyane ko aba yibereye mu bindi.

3.Gerageza kwiyitaho no kwiha umwanya uhagije

Niba uri umugore warakundaga kwisiga, kujya muri salon ukiyitaho, kwambara imyenda myiza, cyangwa igezweho, uri umugabo se warakundaga gukora sport, kwisiga parfum nziza… bikomeze. Wikwisuzugura kuko niba we atakikubona hari n’abandi bakureba, wigarurire icyizere, wumve wongeye kwikunda nyuma yo kubura uwo wakundaga. Subira mu isoko ugure imyenda mishya kandi myiza, ukomeze wiyiteho, uhure n’abandi bantu bashya, umenyane n’inshuti nshya kandi unatemberere ahantu hashya. Niba uri mu kazi ugakore neza kandi nibiba byiza uzanazamuke no mu ntera. Ibyo byose kandi ujye ukora uko ushoboye bimugereho.

Ushobora gukora uko ushoboye ukabonana n’inshuti ze, n’abavandimwe be, n’abo bakorana cyangwa se bigana bitewe n’icyo akora, bityo ntazabasha kwihanganira kutaguhamagara ngo akubaze amakuru. N’ubwo ibyo byose azabikora asa n’utakwitayeho, wowe ntihazagire icyo bigutwara, uzamureke atangazwe no kubona ukuntu ubayeho neza adahari.

Ariko se nyuma y’ibi hakurikiraho iki?

Ese witabye telefone aguhamaye agusaba ko wamugarukira wabyitwaramo ute? Ni gute wabigenza kugira ngo yongere akwiyumvemo nk’uko byahoze?

4.Ntuzigere na rimwe umwemerera ko bikomeza, akibikubwira ku nshuro ya mbere kuko bimwereka ko wari warihagazeho kandi nawe warashize! Ntuzigere na rimwe uhita uvuga “Yego” n’iyo yaba agusabye amahirwe ya nyuma!

Ahubwo musubize ko ukeneye umwanya wo kubitekerezaho.

Ibi ni ukubera iki?

Impamvu ni uko ashaka ko mwongera mugakundana kandi guhita umwemerera si byiza kuko bimwereka ko wari warabuze aho ujya. Humura azakomeza aguhamagare kugeza ubwo azumva bimugeze kure! Ubu noneho, ushobora gukomeza kubikora kugeza ubwo uzaba wizeye neza koko ko yifuza ko mwongera gukundana, ko afite impamvu ikomeye imuteye kugaruka kandi ko usobanuye byinshi kuri we; ubundi urukundo rugasagamba, amahoro, ituze n’umunezero bigataha mu buzima bwanyu mwembi.

Amakosa 7 Abakobwa Bakora mu Irambagizwa

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1. Gushamadukira imibonano mpuzabitsina : n’ubwo ntagihe cyemeranywaho na bose cyo kuba abakundana bakora imibonano mpuzabitsina, wikwemera kuryamana n’ umuhungu utarakumenya neza ngo anakwiyumvemo kuko iyo ubikoze akubona nk’ akajiji akajya yumva agukeneye kubera izo gahunda gusa. Kumenya imiterere yawe y’ inyuma (physique) ntibihagije; umusore aba akeneye no kumenya indi myifatire yawe ngo akugire umukundwa (sweetheart). Kumwitondesha, ntushamadukire imibonano mpuzabitsina, ugategereza ko igihe kigera ni byo byiza.

2. Kumwibwira wese mukimenyana : Si byiza habe na mba kubwira umusore ku ikubitiro inkuru zibabaje z’ ubuto bwawe) cyangwa ibibazo byawe bwite cyangwa iby’ umuryango ukomokamo, kuko bituma akubona nk’ umuntu uje ahetse ibibazo. Yego abakundana baba bagomba kumenyana ndetse ntibanagire ibyo bakingana, ariko byose ntibikorwa umunsi umwe, bisaba igihe, uko abantu bagenda bamenyerana. Mutware buhoro buhoro, ugende umuhishurira amabanga yawe uko iminsi igenda ishira, wirinde guhita umubwira byose mugitangira iby’urukundo kuko ibyo biri muri bimwe bituma atakugirira amatsiko ndetse akanaguhararukwa vuba.

3. Kumuhamagara no kumwoherereza ubutumwa (SMS) kenshi cyane (bikabije): Ikindi ugomba kumenya ni uko abagabo bishimira abakobwa b’ inshuti bishakiye bo ubwabo kurusha ababishakiye. Bityo rero, guhoza telefone ku gutwi umuhamagara, kumwoherereza SMS na e-mails z’ urudaca ntibituma umwigarurira nk’ uko uba ubyifuza. Ni nayo mpamvu nukora aya makosa rimwe na rimwe uzajya umuhamagara akanga kuyifata, wakohereza SMS ntagusubize ngo umenye uko yayakiriye.

4. Kumwigiraho maneko: Yewe guhora umucunga iyo agiye, abo ari kumwe nabo ku buryo iyo umubonanye n’ undi mukobwa wihutira kumubaza ibyo baba bapanga, bishobora guhungabanya umubano wanyu. Ahubwo wowe mwereke ko umukunda, numunyura bizaba bihagije ngo areke abo bakobwa bandi keretse aramutse afite ingeso y’ ubushurashuzi.

5. Kumuhisha utugeso twe wanga: Kubera uburyo uba umukeneye hari ibyo akora bikagushegesha ariko ukanga kubimwereka ngo atakwanga. Uba wiyaruriraho amakara kuko izo ngeso azazikomeza, mu gihe nyamara iyo uza kumusaba wenda aba yarakumviye.Tekereza rero aramutse agushyize mu rugo uko byazagenda hagati yanyu nk’ abantu biyemeje kubana akaramata! Hari igihe cyagera ntubyihanganire kandi nawe atagishoboye guhinduka, bikaba ibibazo gusa.

6. Kumva ko azahinduka : Abantu ,cyane cyane abagabo, ntibapfa guhinduka uko bagenda baba bakuru. Rero niba hari ingeso nyinshi afite ubona utakwihanganira, byaba byiza umwihoreye ugashaka undi muhuje.

7. Kwisuzugura: Yego urukundo ruba rukeneye kuvomererwa no kuhirwa ku buryo buhoraho, ariko kuruha umwanya mwinshi cyane kugera aho wowe ubura uko kwiyitaho byaba ari ubugoryi! Gerageza byose ubijyanire hamwe, kuko umuntu umuha agaciro ari uko nawe ubwe abanje kukiha. Ushobora gushaka kumuharira umwanya wose, yabona utiyitaho akisangira abiyitaho wowe ukaburiramo.

Inama 6 Zo Guhitamo Impano Izashimisha Umuhungu'Umugabo Ukunda

2011-05-05T23:42:00.000-07:00

Niba wifuza guha impano umugabo wawe cyangwa umuhungu w’inshuti yawe hari ibitekerezo by’ibyo wamugenera kandi bikamushimisha.

Ubushakashatsi bwakozwe bwagaragaje ko kugurira umwana impano cyangwa se umukobwa ngo byoroha ugereranyije no kugurira umugabo cyangwa se umuhungu mukundana.

Abagabo benshi batekereza ibintu bimwe; baba bumva akenshi impano zabo ari iz’amasogisi, utwambaro tw’imbere cyangwa karavate.

1. Niba hari imikino cyangwa igitaramo rimwe na rimwe ujye umugurira itike yo kwinjira

Iyi ni imwe mu mpano ishobora gushimisha abagabo, yaba abubatse, abatandukanye n’abagore babo, abakiri gutereta n’abatarushinga. Niba rero wasohokanye n’umukunzi wawe agiye kureba umukino w’ikipe akunda cyangwa se agiye mu gitaramo cy’ itsinda ry’abaririmbyi akunda cyangwa umuhanzi akunda kugira ngo umushimishe kurushaho ujye umugurira itike yo kwinjira atabizi maze nimugera aho mwinjirira uyimutunguze, azahita abona ko umwitaho, ko ibyo aha agaciro n’ibimushimisha ubibona.

2. Mukorere urutonde rw’amafilime cyangwa amakinamico akunda uyamushyirire kuri DVD player

Niba umugabo/umukunzi wawe akoresha amafaranga menshi akugurira indabo, imyambaro n’amaherena kubera iki wowe utareba akantu umuha koroheje nko kumukorera urutonde rwa filime cyangwa amakinamico akunda ukayamushyirira kuri DVD cyangwa CD hanyuma ukazayimuha igihe muri kumwe cyangwa se wamusuye.

3. Cagura indirimbo uzi akunda uzimushyirire kuri CD player

Nta mpamvu yo guhora uha umugabo wawe cyangwa se umusore mukundana impano zihenze, rimwe na rimwe ujye unyuzamo umucagurire uturirimbo uzi ko akunda nurangiza utumushyiririre kuri CD bizajya bituma igihe yicaye arimo kuzumva agutekerezaho. Niba rero harimo izo mwumva muri kumwe zijya zimwibitsa ibihe byiza mwagiranye bituma abona ko umuzirikana buri gihe kandi umuhoza ku mutima.

4. Muhe impano y’imyenda mu gihe ubona ayikeneye

Nubona umugabo wawe arimo ashaka kugura imyambaro mishya cyangwa se arimo guhamagara mu maduka bacuruza imyenda ababwira ko ayikeneye, kubera iki wowe utahera kuri icyo ngo noneho uzamuhe impano y’uwo mwenda yifuza? Ugomba ariko kwitwararika ukamenya imyenda ibera umukunzi wawe, atari ukugenda ngo ugure ibyo ubonye byose.

5. Mugurire akuma gateka cyangwa se agashyushya icyayi

Nugurira umukunzi wawe aka kuma gashyushya icyayi bizatuma adatakaza imbaraga nyinshi kugirango akore icyayi, niba kandi atanagikunda bizatuma azajya agira imbaraga zo kukinywa kubera impano wamuhaye. Ikindi kandi, bizatuma umugabo wawe yishimira kugukorera icyayi igihe icyo ari cyo cyose .

6. Mugurire ikofi cyangwa se isaha

Impano nk’izi ni impano abantu batangiye gukundana cyangwa se guteretana bakoresha. Ibi byereka umuhungu/umukunzi wawe ko umwitayeho. Guha rero umusore mukundana cyangwa umugabo wawe ikofi bizatuma agira isuku mu mifuka ye kandi uko azajya ayikura mu mufuka agiye kuremo cyangwa kwishyura azajya ahora akwibuka.

Ingingo 7 zo Kuganira ku Mafaranga nk'Abakundana

2011-05-05T23:37:00.000-07:00

Dore nk’abantu bakundana ibintu mugomba kwitwararika mukaganira ku bijyanye n’amafaranga.

1. Ujye ugira ubupfura mu gihe uvuga ku bijyanye n’amafaranga yawe

Uko utekereje kuri iyi ngingo ni ko urushaho kubona ukuntu abantu bakundana bibagora kuvugisha ukuri ku bijyanye n’amafaranga yabo.

Rimwe na rimwe, haba ukoresha amafaranga mu bintu atavuganyeho n’umukunzi we, ntatinyuke kuba yamubwiza ukuri aho yagiye, ubundi ugasanga hari ufite konti ye ku ruhande atajya abwira umukunzi we.

Ibi rero si byiza na gato mu rukundo kuko iyo umukunzi wawe abimenye bimubabaza cyane kandi akaba yanatangira kwibaza ko hari n’ibindi byinshi umukinga bitari ibyo. Ni koko, ntibyoroshye pe, ariko burya kubivugaho kandi ukavugisha ukuri, yaba ari imyenda ufitecyangwa amafaranga wakoresheje, bitanga amahoro cyane mu rukundo kandi bigatuma mugirana icyizere cyane.

2. Iregere amakosa wakoze cyangwa n’izindi ngeso zawe zitari nziza mu gukoresha amafaranga

Niba hari amakosa wakoze mu gukoresha amafaranga yawe cyangwa se yanyu nka couple, n’ubundi ibyo byarangije kuba wita umwanya mwishi ubitekerezaho cyangwa ubimuhisha.

Bimubwire kandi mushakire hamwe igisubizo kandi umusabe imbabazi ndetse wirengere ingaruka z’ibikorwa bibi byawe, ntiwemere ko bimugwaho kandi nta ruhare yabigizemo, umwemerere ko utazabisubira kandi koko guhera ubwo ntuzigere na rimwe ubisubira.

3. Si byiza kugarura ibibazo by’amafaranga bya kera

Ibyinshi mu biganiro hagati y’abashakanye bishobora kubafatira umwanya munini ni ibiba bijyanye n’amafaranga n’ikoreshwa ryayo. Imodoka cyangwa inzu nshya bagiye kugura, ingendo bashaka gukora kandi zibasaba amafaranga menshi, umunsi mukuru bateganyanya gukora ukomeye, n’ibindi. Muri ibi byose kenshi usanga atari ko babyumvikanaho kimwe, ugasanga akenshi habamo impaka nyinshi, usibye kandi n’izi ntonganya zishobora kubaho mbere, hari n’izindi ngo nyinshi ushobora kumva zihora zitongana, zivugana nabi kubera ibibazo zigeze kugira kera biturutse ku mafaranga.

Si byiza rero kugarura ibi bibazo kandi byararangiye kuko bizana intonganya z’ubusa mu rugo kuko niba ari uwumva aba yarumvise icyo gihe ubimubwira, niba kandi atumva n’ubundi icyo wakora cyose ntiyakumva; kubigarura byaba ari nko gukora ubusa.

4. Niba mu biganiro byanyu udashobora kumwubahira urukundo umufitiye, nibura ibuka ikinyabupfura n’icyubahiro umugomba

Uburakari ubwo ari bwo bwose waba ufite igihe urimo kuganira n’umukunzi wawe ku ngingo runaka mutarimo kumvikanaho neza, si byiza ko umwubahuka ngo umusuzugure cyangwa ngo umutuke.

Mu kuvuga ku byerekeranye n’amafaranga n’ikoreshwa ryayo mu bakundana nk’uko twabonye ko biri mu biganiro bishobora gutuma abashakanye barakaranya, jya ugerageza gukomeza kuba wowe Nyirizina, umenye aho kwihangana kwawe kurangirira n’aho uburakari bwawe butangirira, umenye kwifata no kwihangana mu gihe ubona ko bigeze kure.

5. Baza ibibazo byinshi umukunzi wawe, shakisha uko wumva uburyo afata cyangwa akoresha amafaranga ye

Aho kugira go umutegeke ko akoresha amafaranga cyangwa ayafata mu buryo wifuza, gerageza kumubaza ibibazo byinshi, umusobanuze mu buryo bwose ku buryo usobanukirwa uko we ayakoresha n’ibyo yifuza gukora.

Burya iyo wumva kandi usobanukiwe neza n’imiterere y’umukunzi wawe n’uburyo afata ibintu ntabwo bikugora kimwe no kuba utabyumva. Niba muri mo kuganira ku bijyanye n’amafaranga, ntugahite urakara cyangwa ngo ushake ko atekereza nkawe kuko buri wese agomba kugumana uburenganzira bwe, ahubwo wenda mukumvikana uburyo mwese mwahuriza hamwe.

6. Ntukabwire nabi umukunzi wawe cyangwa ngo umugaye imbere y’uwo ari we wese

Twese iyo twagize ikibazo runaka tuba twifuza ko cyashira, tukifuza uwo twakibwira kugira ngo kidusohokemo, ariko kandi kuvuga umukunzi wawe nabi cyangwa kumusebya imbere y’inshuti ze cyangwa se zawe cyangwa n’undi muntu wese, burya ntabwo biba byiza na gato. Ni yo mpamvuu banavuga ko imyenda isa nabi imeserwa mu mbere, ntabwo ari byiza ko mwishyira hanze. Niba udashoboye kugabanya ‘stress’ uterwa n’ibibazo by’amafaranga mugirana, jya ushaka umujyanama w’abakundana akuganirize, cyangwa se undi muntu usobanukiwe neza n’uburyo amafaranga akoreshwa akugire inama y’uburyo mwajya mubyitwaramo.

7. Jya wibuka kumenya aho kwihangana kwawe kurangirira bityo niwumva uburakari ari bwinshi, umusabe ko mwaba mucumbitse ikiganiro mu minota mike kugira ngo ubanze ufate imbaraga n’undi mwuka.

Hari igihe rwose bigera kure, impaka ari nyinshi, aho kugira ngo mube mwakubahukana, ni byiza ko mufata umwanya mukaba mubihagaritse mwakumva nta kibazo mushobora kongera mukavugana mukaba aribwo wongera.

Imico 3 Isenya Urukundo

2011-05-05T23:34:00.000-07:00

Kugira ngo urukundo rwanyu rugende neza, ndetse mwese musangire ibyishimo kandi mubane neza hari imico imwe n’imwe mugomba kureka kandi burundu.

1. Ntukaremereze utuntu duto

Niba umukunzi wawe akoze agakosa, ntugahite ubikuririza ngo bimere nk’aho yaciye inka amabere nk’uko bajya babivuga. Buri wese afite uburenganzira bwo gukosa, ikibi ni ukubigira akamenyero. Tuvuge, niba ajugunye imyenda hejuru y’uburiri akagenda atayizinze ngo ayisubize mu kabati, ntukamere nk’aho akoze ikindi kintu gikomeye ahubwo wowe jya umuruta uyifate uyizinge uyimusubirize mu kabati kandi ubikorane umutima mwiza utinuba, ni bwo nawe azakureberaho urugero kandi noneho ubutaha akabikora.

Niba akunda gukina imikino yo kuri teleiziyo nk’uko bigaragara ku ifoto, wowe ukaba utabikunda, ntukamurakarire; jya umureka yikinire, gusa umwereke ko wowe utabikunda. Uzaba ureba, ubutaha azajya aza abanze akubaze icyo ushaka kureba kuko ubushize yabonye ko umwihanganira kabone n’iyo wowe utabikunda, azabigirira ko ujya umuha amahoro maze nawe ayaguhe kandi yishimye.

2. Ntukamufatire ibihano kuri buri kantu kose akoze

Guhana umukunzi wawe kuri buri kantu kose akoze udakunda ntacyo bizafasha urukundo rwanyu, usibye guhora mwese murakaranya. Hari abantu bamwe babura icyo bakora iyo abakunzi babo bakoze ibintu batishimira bagahitamo kubashakira ibihano. Ibi bihano bishobora kuba kutavugana nabo mu gihe cy’iminsi ibiri cyangwa inarenze, gutaha bagahita biryamira yakuvugisha ukamusubiza nabi, kumuhisha ibintu bimwe uziko ajya akoresha bikakubangamira (nk’imikino ajya akina, ibitabo ajya asoma akakwima umwanya,) n’ibindi…

Burya akenshi birakubabaza, bikagushengura umutima, aho kugira ngo ubyitwaremo utyo, jya ugerageza kureba ibyiza akora, ugerageze kureba uruhande rwe rwiza kandi wumve ibyo biguhagije; ubundi uzaba ureba ukuntu bizamukora ku mutima agahinduka ubwe nta zindi mbaraga ushyizeho, kubera izo mbuto nziza wamwereye, witwara gutyo.

3. Ntugahatirize

Hari igihe umukunzi wawe ashobora kugukorera ikosa, ukamubabarira ari nko kumwikiza, kubera ko wabuze uko ugira; akenshi ugahora ubyibuka cyangwa ugahora wumva usa n’umurwariye inzika, usa n’uwifuza nawe umunsi umwe kuzamwishyura iryo kosa yagukoreye, ukabona kuruhuka! Kenshi ugerageza no kubyikuramo bikakunanira neza neza, ukagerageza kwishyiramo ko wamubabariye kandi ko wishimanye nawe ariko wakwisuzuma ukumva urasa n’urimo kwibeshya. Sigaho kwirwaza umutima, rekera aho niba wumva byanze, nta tegeko ufite ryo kugumana nawe niba wumva urukundo rwari rubahuje rutagihari kuko ni ryo shingiiro ry’umubano wanyu. Gusa umwegere ubimubwire udahubutse, kuko burya iyo we akigukunda cyangwa se akaba atari abyiteguye biramuremerera cyane kumva ko umusezeye, ko utagishaka kubana nawe.

Mu rukundo, jya wirinda guhubuka no guhatiriza ngo ukore ibitakurimo ushaka kumushimisha, wirinde kandi no kumukomeretsa mu gihe ubimubwira kuko burya umuntu mwigeze kubana n’iyo mwatandukana, ntibiba ari byiza ko mutandukana nabi.

Intambwe 7 Zo Guhitamo Impano Izashimisha Umukobwa/Umugore Ukunda

2011-05-05T23:29:00.000-07:00

1. Ugomba gutekereza ibintu akunda kurusha ibindi

Niba umugore/umukunzi wawe akunda amaherena, ibikomo, imyenda, filimi, cyangwa imikino yo kuri mudasobwa uzabimushakire bizamunezeza. Gusa ugomba kwitonda kugira ngo utagura ikintu umukunzi wawe afite kuko nuramuka umuguriye ikintu yari asanzwe atunze nta bwo bizamushimisha cyane nk’uko wamuha icyo akunda kandi adafite.

Ikindi kintu cyashimisha umukunzi/umugore wawe, ni ukumutungura ukamutekera ibiryo akunda. Banza umenye ubwoko bw’ibiryo akunda, ubimutekere atabizi ubundi nataha mubisangire. Ushobora kandi kugenda ukabimugurira ubundi ukabimushyira aho ari (mu rugo cyangwa iwabo niba ari umukobwa); ibi bizamushimisha kuko azabona ko umuhoza ku mutima.

Niba ugiye kumugurira impano y’imyambaro ugomba kubanza ukamenya ubwoko bw’amabara akunda ukabona kumugurira umwenda; nugura ibara adakunda uzaba ukoreye ubusa kuko atazawambara cyangwa akawambara rimwe (wenda muri busohokane cyangwa buhure) kugira ngo agushimishe ubundi akawubika kure.

Ku birebana n’injyana cyangwa se muzika ni byiza ko wamenya ubwoko mbw’indirimbo umukobwa mukundana akunda kumva, ibi bikazagufasha igihe uzaba ugiye guhitamo izo washyira kuri CD cyangwa DVD wamuha nk’impano.

Ibi ni bimwe mu bitekerezo byagufasha guhitamo impano waha umukunzi wawe, ariko ntawavuga ibyo ushobora guhitamo ngo abirangize ahubwo ni ahawe kumenya icyo akunda kuko burya abantu bakunda ibintu bitandukanye.

Mu gihe noneho utazi ikintu na kimwe akunda (cyane kuri ba bandi baba bagitangira kumenyana/guteretana), gerageza ushake umuntu ubaza ibyo umukunzi wawe akunda; ariko uzirinde kugenda ubaza buri wese kuko inkuru niba kimomo bikamugeraho ibyo uzamugurira nta gaciro na gato azabiha.

2. Gerageza kumenya neza umukobwa mukundana; usobanukirwe uwo ari we

Mbere yo kugira impano uhitiramo umukunzi wawe w’umukobwa ugomba kubanza ukamumenya neza, ukamenya niba ari umuntu ushishikazwa no guhabwa impano izo ari zo zose cyangwa niba ari umuntu ukunda ibintu bike, byoroheje, bihenze,... Niba ari umuntu ukunda ibintu bike, gerageza umenye ibyo bike akunda abe ari byo uzakoresha ugiye kumuha impano (cadeau). Nk’urugero, ashobora gusa kuba akunda chocolate nk’ikiribwa cyangwa se akunda n’ibintu birimo ibara rya chocola, nujya kugura rero uzayibandeho.

3. Reba ibintu akoresha iyo ari mu gihe cye cyo kuruhaka

Jya ugerageza gushakisha umenye ikintu akunda gukora mu gihe nta kazi afite. Urugero rwa hafi umuntu yatanga ni nk’igihe wenda ushobora gusanga iyo aruhuka akunda kuba ari kwandika cyangwa gushushanya. Niba rero mu gihe aruhuka aba arimo ashushanya, uzamugurire agakayi gato bashushanyamo (sketbook) ugaherekereshe ikaramu y’igiti (pencil) azajya akoresha ashushanya. Iyi mpano nta kabuza izamushimisha kurusha n’ibindi bindi watekereza. Zirikana ko mu gihe azaba arimo kwandika muri aka gakaye wamuguriye na buri nshuro akabumbuye azajya ahita akwibuka.

4. Ugomba kumenyana n’inshuti ze ndetse na mama we by’umwihariko

Impamvu nyamukuru ugomba gushaka ubu bucuti n’abantu bo hafi ye (barimo na Mama we) ni uko inshuti y’umuntu ndetse n’umubyeyi ari bo bantu bashobora kuba bamuzi neza, cyane ko ari bo bamarana igihe kinini. Iyi ni yo nzira nziza yo kumenya icyo umukunzi wawe akunda biciye muri aba bantu kandi bikazatuma umugurira impano adafite kuko uzaba wabibajije abantu bamuhora iruhande.

5. Ugomba kumenya ko n’igihe ufite amafaranga make ugomba guha impano umukunzi wawe

Utuntu duko duto tudasaba amafaranga menshi natwo turakora mu rukundo. Urugero, ushobora kumugurira akarabo gato gaherekejwe n’amagambo y’urukundo wenda ukaba wakwandikaho uti: “Mpora ngutekerezaho igihe cyose”. Ibi bizamushimisha kuko niyo uwo mukobwa yaba adakunda indabo amagambo uzandikaho niyo azahita aha agaciro kurusha ururabo uzaba wamuhaye.

6. Mu mpano uzatanga ntuzigere uha umukobwa impano y’amafaranga

Burya amafaranga nta bwo abarirwa mu mpano. Aho kugira ngo uhe umukobwa amafaranga ugomba kugeregeza ukamenya ikintu akeneye ubundi akaba ari cyo umugurira cyangwa se ukareba ikintu umukorera muri ayo mafaranga wateganyaga kumuha.

7. Nujya kugurira umukobwa mukundana imitako cyangwa imyenda ntukamugurire ibihendutse cyane.

Burya abakobwa benshi bakunda ibintu bisa naho bigezweho. Ibyo bintu kandi akenshi biba bihenze. Numugurira ikintu gihenze rero azishima cyane. Aha twavuga nk’ ubwoko bw’ imyambaro buzwi kandi bugezweho muri iyo minsi. Gusa ntibivuze ko ugomba kwishakamo ubushobozi udafite ugamije gushimisha umukunzi, ahubwo bivuze ko utagomba kureba nanone cya kindi kiri ku giciro cyo hasi kurusha ibindi. Aha kandi bivuze ko ushobora kumugurira ikintu gihendutse ariko kigezweho kandi uzi neza ko akunda.

Impano ni uburyo bwiza cyane bwo gushimisha umukunzi. Niba rero ugiye gushakira umukobwa ukunda impano, ni byiza ko ubitekerezaho witonze, ukabanza ukamenya ikintu ari bukunde ubundi nawe ugishakire kutakibura. Kandi uzagerageze kumuha ikintu kizajya kimutandukanya n’ abandi kikaba umwihariko kuri we.

Uburyo 4 bwo Gufasha Umukunzi Kumererwa Neza

2011-05-05T23:22:00.000-07:00

Jya wereka umukunzi wawe, uburyo ukimukunda kandi unamugaragarize ko wishimiye kuba uri kumwe nawe n’iyo mwaba mumaranye igihe kinini cyane.

1 Jya usohokana na we, ugende usa neza nka cya gihe uko wabaga witwararitse igihe agutumira bwa mbere. Igihe mwasohokanye jya umwereka ko ntacyo wishisha kandi ko nta we umubangikanya nawe: Ibi ushobora kubimwereka umusoma ku mugaragaro mu bandi bantu bari aho, umubwira kandi uvuga cyane ko umukunda kandi ko utazamureka n’ibindi byose bishobora kumwereka ko udafite isoni z’uko abantu bamenya ko umukunda.

2 Jya kandi umubwira ko asa neza, kandi ko ari umugabo/umugore w’igitego. Hari igihe abagabo batigirira icyizere bityo bakagira ngo abakobwa b’inshuti zabo ntibabishimiye cyangwa ntibabahagije, jya ugerageza kwereka umukunzi wawe ko aguhagije kandi ko umwishimiye rwose.

3 Rimwe na rimwe kandi jya umwereka ko umufuhira kabone n’aho byaba bitaguturutse ku mutima. Hari abantu bashobora kubona abakunzi babo batajya na rimwe babafuhira bagatangira kwibaza ko batakibakunda cyangwa ko babatendeka. Jya unyuzamo umwereke, yego utarengereye, ko umufuhiye kugira ngo abone ko ukimukeneye, ko ugishaka urukundo rwe kandi ko umushaka ari uwawe gusa.

4 Jya umusoma cyane kandi umwereka ko wari ubikumbuye. Uti ‘nabimwereka nte rero’? Niba aguhaye akabizu agiye nko ku kazi, rimwe na rimwe n’uba wumva umukumbuye, jya uhita umukurura umusome nibura nk’iminota ibiri cyangwa inarenga, umwereke ko n’ubwo yari agusezeye yihuta nyamara wari ukeneye ibirenze ako kabizu gusa, umwereke ko kuba uri kumwe nawe bikurutira ibindi byose kandi ko urukundo rwe ruguhagije.

Intambwe 21 Zo Kubaka Urukundo ku Rutare

2011-05-05T23:14:00.000-07:00

1. Ubahe umukunzi wawe: Akenshi kubera kumenyerana cyane usanga wibagirwa icyubahiro umugomba. Si byiza ko usigara umufata nk’umuntu usanzwe ngo umubwire ibyo wishakira byose. Umukunzi wawe aba akwiye guhora ashimishwa n’uko umwitwaraho, ukamwitwararikaho, ukamwereka ko umuha icyubahiro kandi kimukwiriye. Aba yifuza ko umwubaha kandi ukanamwubahisha mu bandi.

2. Nyurwa n’uko umukunzi wawe ameze: Abakundana benshi batandukanywa n’uko umwe mu bakundana atanyurwa n’uko uwo akunda ameze, yabona inshuti ye ifite umukunzi akifuza ko nawe uwe yaba ameze atyo kandi burya ikigushimisha si cyo cyashimisha undi, n’icyo wakundiye umukunzi wawe sicyo undi yakundiye uwe, bityo byakabaye byiza buri wese anyuzwe n’uko umukunzi we ameze.

3. Jya ubwira umukunzi wawe ko ari mwiza, yambaye neza, aberewe,… bitari ukumureshya no kumuryarya, ahubwo ari ukumwereka uburyo aguhagije kandi ko uticuza icyo wamukundiye.

4. Mubwire utujambo tw’urukundo, umubwire kandi nta soni ufite ko umukunda, nibura inshuro imwe ku munsi. Hari abantu bamwe batinya kuvuga ijambo”ndagukunda”, kandi mu by’ukuri nta muntu n’umwe udashimishwa no kubwirwa n’umukunzi ko amukunda, cyangwa ko nta soni biteye kuba umukunda. Ni byiza ko ubimubwira, akabimenya, akareka kubishidikanyaho; ariko ntibibe kubimubwira gusa ahubwo unabimwereke mu bikorwa.

5. Mujye mugira imishinga mufatanya: Burya iyo abantu bakundana usanga batavugana ku bintu byose, ariko bikaba byiza iyo bagize ibyo bafatanya gukorana nk’udushinga duto, gutegura urugendo bazakorana, kubaka inzu; ntibibe bya bindi umwe agenda akiherera agakora ibintu undi akazatungurwa!

6. Mujye mwicarana muganire cyane cyane ku kibazo runaka kibugarije, mugirane inama, kandi mugire n’umwanzuro mufatira hamwe.

7. Mujye mugerageza guhana impano bitari ngombwa wenda ko ziba zihenze cyane, ariko zifite icyo zisobanuye, zishobora kuvuga no gukora byinshi kurusha ibyo wavuga n’umunwa wawe.

8. Mujye mufatanya muri byose: Niba ari mu makosa umukosore kandi niba aguye mu byago ntumutererane.

9. Jya uhora umwishimiye kandi umwereke ko ari uwa mbere mu buzima bwawe: Abantu benshi birabagora kwerekana ibyo biyumvamo, ariko burya bishimisha umukunzi kumwereka ko ari uwa mbere, ko watomboye kumubona, ko wifuza ko muzibanira akaramata, kandi ko nta na rimwe uzigera umureka n’ibindi byose byiza wamwereka.

10. Birashoboka ko mushobora kuganira mukagera kure, mugakoranaho, mugasomana ndetse yewe mukaba mwanagera aho muryamana, ariko ntimukabigire nk’aho aricyo gisobanuro cy’urukundo kuko urukundo ni rugari rurenze ibi bifatika!

11. Mujye mugira umwanya wo guseka, mubwirane inkuru zisekeje, muruhurane mu mutwe, musekeee.. museke peee! Ntiwari uzi se ko guseka bavuga ko byongera iminsi yo kubaho? Usibye n’ibyo kandi ni byiza ko ukora utuntu cyangwa ukabwira utuntu umukunzi wawe dutuma agukumbura iyo udahari, yaba atwibutse yewe mutanari kumwe agaseka.

12. Mujye mugira ingingo runaka mutegura kuganiraho nibura rimwe mu byumweru bibiri, ingingo mubona ko yabubaka mwembi, wenda nibiba ngombwa mushake ubarusha kuyumva cyangwa kuyisobanukirwa ayibaganirizeho.

13. Mujye mugira igihe cyo kuganira ku ndoto zanyu kandi buri wese afashe undi kuzigeraho.

14. Ntimugapfukirane: Mbere y’uko akubona yari afite ibyo asanzwe akunda ndetse afite n’izindi nshuti. Ikindi kandi burya umuntu ni mugari ku buryo wowe wenyine udashobora kumuhaza; akeneye umubera umuvandimwe, uwo batera ibiparu mu gihe ashaka kwiruhurira mu mutwe (aba bajya bita Abajama), akeneye umunyenshuri bigana cyangwa umukozi bakorana kugira ngo amubere inshuti y’umwihariko, akeneye inshuti magara,…Jya umureka rero yisanzure kuba agufite ntibivuga ko yasubijwe ko nta n’undi muntu n’umwe akeneye.

15. Mwese muri kimwe, ntukumve ko hari ibyo wemerewe we atakora cyangwa ngo wumve ko hari amakosa ashobora gukorwa n’abagabo atakorwa n’abagore cyangwa se yakorwa n’abagore ntakorwe n’abagabo. Mwese muri kimwe, nta mwana, nta mukozi w’undi, nta mucakara w’undi ahubwo muri umwe; bityo rero ntihakagire uwumva ibi bireba uriya ngo we yumve ntacyo bimubwiye.

16. Mwemere uko ari, wishimire uko ari kuko ariwe Imana yakuremeye. Ntukumve ko wakwishima kurushaho ari uko uri kumwe na kanaka, jya ushimishwa n’umukunzi wawe kandi wige guhazwa n’ibyo ufite.

17. Ntimukabeshyane kandi ntimugacane inyuma: Ntacyo abandi bamurusha, bityo jya unyurwa n’uko ameze, ni wo muberanye pe.

18. Mujye mubabarirana, igihe umwe muri mwe, agize ikosa agwamo: Niba hari icyo yakoze kitagushimishije, ntukumve ko isi yakuguyeho, ntukumve kandi ko bikabije ku buryo adakwiye kubabarirwa. Twese turi abanyamakosa kandi buri wese yemerewe gukosa kuko tutari abamalayika, gusa ntuzabigendereho ngo nawe uhore ubabaza umukunzi, umunsi umwe ashobora kunanirwa kwihangana akagusiga kandi ntibyakugwa neza.

19. Jya usigarana amasomo y’ibyakubayeho, ntukibagirwe kugira ngo bijye bigufasha guhora wirinda kugwa mu makosa wigeze kugwamo kera.

20. Jya ugira ubushake ko urukundo rwanyu rwakomeza, niba usenga jya ubishyira mu isengesho ryawe rya buri munsi, ntukibagirwe ko byose bishoboka, urukundo rukwiye guhora ruvomerwa.

21. Ntimukararane umujinya-ikibazo cyababaje ntirikarenge mutagikemuye. Burya iyo umujinya urengeje umunsi umwe uhinduka inzigo kandi kuyibagirwa no kuyihagarika bikagorana

Ibintu 7 Byangiza Ubuzima bw'Abakundana

2011-05-05T23:00:00.000-07:00

Ibi bintu birindwi biri mu bituma urukundo rwanyu rucumbagira, bitangira ari bitoya ariko mutarebye neza bishobora gutuma ruhagarara! Nta kindi wakora rero usibye kubyirinda ukanabirinda umukunzi wawe, mwembi mukabigendera kure, bityo mukaba murinze urukundo rwanyu.

1. Televiziyo

Muzarebe namwe nk’iyo hari filimi za seri (series), ukava ku kazi mbere yo kubaza uko abo mu rugo biriwe ugahita uhitira kuri televiziyo, cyangwa ari mu gihe cy’imipira ya champion’s League cyangwa n'iyindi,… biri mu bintu bibangamira abakundana.

Kujya ku meza wicaye imbere ya Televiziyo kabone n’aho mwaba murimo kureba ibintu mwembi bibashimishije iyo bibaye buri gihe bituma nta mwihariko w’ibiganiro byanyu mugirana, ugatuma nta mwanya mufata ngo muganire, mwitekerezeho.

2. Guhora mu bintu bimwe

Ya restaurant mwakundaga gusohokeramo, rya funguro mwakundaga gusangira, ha hantu hose mwakundaga gutemberera,… muri make bya bindi byose mwajyaga mukunda, bya bindi byose byajyaga bibashishikaza, byose mwarabyibagiwe, mwarabitaye,… ubu musigaye mubana nk’abantu bamenyeranye bihorera mu bintu bimwe, nta mwihariko wanyu mufite, nta gashya mu rukundo rwanyu kandi urukundo ni nk’ururabyo rusaba guhora ruvomerwa, ibi nabyo biri mu bituma couple inanirwa, igacumbagira byarimba ndetse ikaba yanahagarara burundu.

3. Gukora amasaha arenga ayo mwagombaga

Rekera aho gutaha bwije, bitari uko gusa nawe ubwawe nta gihe wiha ahubwo kuko n’uwo ukunda nta mwanya na muke ukimuha. Gerageza kuva ku masaha wakoraga nibura ukureho nk’abiri ukomeze kugera ubwo uzumva nawe ubwawe usigaye ubona umwanya wo kuruhuka. Impamvu y’ibi rero si no kugira ngo uruhuke gusa, nta n’ubwo impamvu bibangamira umukunzi wawe ari uko atakikubona gusa, ahubwo ni uko iyo umaze igihe ukora cyane utaruhuka n’ibiganiro byawe ubwabyo biba ari ibyerekeranye n’akazi kawe gusa, bityo ugasanga ariko konyine uha umwanya mu buzima bwawe, umukunzi wawe ntiyongere kubona umwanya mu buzima bwawe.

4. Kutiyitaho

Kuba umaranye igihe kinini n’umukunzi wawe, ntibivuze ko bihagije; kuba kandi akuzi neza agukunda uko uri - ibyiza byawe n’ibibi byawe- ntibivuze ko bihagije nta kindi ushobora gukora. Si byiza ko ujya mu bwiherero ugasiga udasutsemo amazi ngo ni uko mujya no gukundana ariko wari umeze yabyihanganiye, nta n’ubwo ari byiza ko musohokana utikozeho, ngo wambare neza, usokoze imisatsi yawe neza, ku buryo buri munsi abona impamvu yo kugumana nawe, ku buryo n’abandi bakureba koko bakabona ko afite umukunzi mwiza. Ni ngombwa kumwereka ko ari umuntu w’agaciro imbere yawe ku buryo buri gihe uba ugomba kwishimira kuba ari uwawe ukabimwereka umuha agaciro akwiye koko.

5. Kumwima agaciro

Mu bintu bya mbere bibangamira couple, harimo kuba udaha agaciro umukunzi wawe.

Aha sinshatse kuvuga kumugurira impano gusa, kumuha indabyo nziza z’amaroze, ibi byose si byo byonyine byereka umukunzi wawe ko umuhaye agaciro. Ahubwo, wenda niba muri kumwe, jya umureba umwereke ko n’ubu utarumva uburyo yakwemereye ko utura mu mutima we; birahagije ko umenya kandi ukamubwira ikintu cyose gishya cyamubayeho, niba yambaye umwenda mushya, niba avuye muri salon de coiffure, ugahita ubibona kandi ukabimubwira; ntugatinye kumubwira igihe ubona asa neza cyangwa yambaye neza, ntugatinye na rimwe kumubwira icyo umutekerezaho cyane cyane iyo ari cyiza kandi ubona ko gishobora kumwubaka.

6. Gufuha birenze urugero

Burya iyo ukunda umuntu ni ngombwa ko umufuhira, ariko na bwo iyo urengereye ntibiba bikiri byiza.

Rekera aho kumucunga no kumucungisha abandi, si umujura. Rekera aho gucunga ubutumwa bugufi yakiriye kuri telefoni ye, rekera aho gucunga email zamwandikiwe n’izo yanditse. Jya umenya ko ikintu cy’ingenzi mu rukundo ari icyizere kandi mwese mukakigirirana. Iyo ukomeje kumwereka ko utamwizeye, agera aho akaruha na we akagera aho akumva ntaryohewe bityo rwose akaba yanisangira undi umuha amahoro.

7. Kwifata bikabije

Kumenya imibereho ya couple yanyu burya ni ingenzi kandi birabareba mwese. Rimwe na rimwe hari ibintu biba bidakwiye gukorwa nk’ umugenzo. Iyo abantu bakundana cyane cyane abamaze kubana dore ko ari nabo baba babyemerewe, ni byiza ko bakorana imibonano mpuzabitsina. Burya si ngombwa ko buri joro uko mugiye kuryama mutangira kubonana, nta n’ubwo ari formule rwose kuko iki ni igikorwa gikorwa iyo buri wese abyiyumvamo, bitari uko ari formule. Niba utabyiyumvamo aho kugira ngo ubikore nabi, wabireka rwose ariko kandi mujye mugerageza mwembi, mumenye igihe mwumva mwese mubishaka. Gusa ntimugahore mu bintu bimwe hato mutazarambirwa ahubwo nimugerageze guhindura uburyo mubikoramo, mugerageze kubwizanya ukuri ibishimisha buri wese, mugerageze guhindura igihe, kuko burya iyo bihora ari bimwe nta gashya, mugera aho mukarambirwa. Nimugerageze mwumve ko ari igikorwa muha agaciro. Nko mu bihugu byateye imbere ho, hari igihe abakunzi bava mu gihugu bakajya mu kindi, mu mugabane bakajya mu wundi, ariko kugira ngo urukundo rwabo ruhore ari rushya nta bintu bihoraho kandi birambirana bakora.

Amakosa 4 y'Urukundo Abagore Bakora

2011-05-05T22:48:00.000-07:00

Abagore bakunda gukora uko bashoboye kose kugira ngo babane neza n’ abagabo babo bityo bakaba rimwe na rimwe bashobora kutabigeraho bitewe n’ amakosa bashobora gukora mu buryo batazi.

1. Kwizera ko ushobora guhindura umugabo

Kugumana icyizere ko ushobora guhindura ingeso mbi z’ inshuti yawe ni uburyo bubi bwo gushaka umukunzi. Umuntu nakubwira kugumana n’ umuhungu mukundana kuko ushobora kumuhindura ntukemere iyo nama.

2. Kwicecekera

Igitekerezo kivuga ko umugore agomba kwitonda kuruta uko asanzwe kugira ngo atege umugabo we amatwi gusa ni ikosa rikomeye. Niba umugabo wawe atagukundira uko umeze cyangwa akumva adatekanye kuko yifuza umuntu arusha ubwenge ntugomba kumushaka. Iyo ugerageza guhisha ubushobozi bwawe uba ukora ikosa rikomeye nubwo yaba ari mwiza bingana bite. Ntugire ikibazo igumire wenyine.

3. Gutegereza ko umugabo agenda

Urukundo rw’ ubu ndetse n’ibitabo bigezweho bivuga ko umugore agomba gutegereza ko umugabo agira aho ajya kugira ngo nawe agire aho ajya. Nubwo rimwe na rimwe ibyo ari byiza, no kugira icyo ukora kugira ngo ubone icyo wifuza kimwe no kugaragaza uko umeze ni byiza. Ibi kandi binagaragara ku bintu bimwe na bimwe byo mu rugo, aho abagore bamwe bategereza guhabwa ‘uburengenzira’ n’abagaabo mbere yo kugira icyo bakora. Niba barakubwiye gutegereza ko telefone isona baguhaye inama mbi. Niba ukeneye ikintu gifate, ubundi uze kumusobanurira. Gusa uzirinde gusesagura

4. Gukora icyo ashaka cyose

Iri ni irindi kosa mu rukundo. Ni byiza gufata icyemezo wagishije inama. Mu gihe gutegereza umugabo kugira ngo ahitemo igihe aribyo byiza, gupfukiranya ibitekerezo byawe kubera ubwoba si byiza. Gerageza kureka gukora ibyo yifuza byose mu ntangiriro z’ umubano wanyu kuko ushobora kuzamutungura utangiye kubinanirwa. Aho kugira ngo ushyire umubano wanyu mu kaga no mu ntambara, emerera kamere yawe n’ ibitekerezo byawe kwigaragaza igihe cyose.

Uburyo 5 Wakoresha Kugira ngo Umugabo Wawe Arusheho Kugukunda

2011-05-05T22:42:00.000-07:00

1. Ereka umugabo wawe ko umukunda aho kubimubwira

Burya mu rukundo ibikorwa nibyo by’igenzi kurusha amagambo. Ntuzakore ibyo ukeka ko abagore benshi bakorera abagabo babo cyangwa se ibyo bakubwira ngo ukorere uwawe ahubwo gerageza ukore utuntu tw’umwihariko, umwereke ko umukunda bidaciye mu bandi. Niba ushaka ko umugabo wawe azajya aguha impano gerageza nawe umuhe impano hanyuma nawe uzajya uzibona, nyinshi kandi buri munsi. ikindi kandi ugomba kujya wita ku mugabo wawe igihe cyose, ni ukuvuga mwaba mwirirwanye mu urugo cyangwa igihe avuye ku kazi; niba akora ugomba ku mwitaho. Menya ko ari ikosa kuguma kuri telefone uvugana n’incuti zawe kandi umugabo wawe ahari. Niba ushaka ko umugabo wawe agufata mu buryo budasanzwe tangira nawe umufate neza mu buryo bwose ushoboye.

2. Gerageza umwereke ibikorwa by’urukundo buri kanya

Niba muri umugabo n’umugore mwubatse, umugore akaba amaze kumenyera ko buri gihe umugabo ariwe uzana ingingo yo gutera urubariro bikwiye guhinduka. Mugore nawe rimwe na rimwe jya ugerageza ube ari wowe utuma mutera akabariro bizatuma umugabo wawe yumva ko nawe umukunda. Ibi kandi bizanatuma yikuramo ikintu cyo kumva ko igihe azanye igitekerezo kimeze gutya uzamuhakanira. kuko ngo usanga abagabo benshi bumva ko bari busubizwe inyuma igihe bazanye igitekerezo cyo gutera urubariro. bi ntibivuzeko iki ari cyo kintu cyonyine cyatuma umugabo wawe abona ko umukunda ariko nanone hari ikintu bizahindura ku kuntu yagufataga, bizatuma kandi agukunda mu buryo wifuzaga.

3. Hagarika intonganya hagati yawe n’umugabo wawe ahubwo utangire gukoresha amagambo meza y’urukundo igihe muganira

Ubundi ngo muri rusange abagabo benshi ntibakunda gusubiza neza abagore babo bigatuma n’abagore bavuga nabi. Nyamara icyiza si uko umuntu ukubwiye nabi nawe umwuka indi, ahubwo mugore jya ugerageza wicishe bugufi utege amatwi umugabo wawe ubundi umubwirane ikinyapfura ko uburyo agusubisazamo utabikunda kandi umubwire ko n’iyo aguciye intege bikubabaza cyane . Aha bizatuma umugabo atangira kugabanya gukoresha amagambo akarishye mu mvugo ye kuko azaba abonye ko utabimenyereye.

4. Mwereke ko umutima wawe n’ibyuyumvo byawe bimufitiye icyizere

Igihe muri kuganira ujye ukoresha amagambo amwereka ko umwizera kandi ko umutima wawe udashidikanya ko umugabo wawe ari umumwizerwa. Ntugakunde kumubaza ibijyanye n’umubano wanyu cyangwa se ngo wibaze icyo yakora mu mibanire yanyu, bityo bizatuma umugabo abona ko unyurwa n’ibyo agukorera noneho arusheho kugenda agukunda.

5. Gerageza kwiyoroshya ujye unanyuzamo museke bizatuma amenya ko burya nawe ukunda ibintu bikunezeza

Abagore benshi bakunda guhora bafunze amasura bashaka ko bahora baganira ibiganiro biremereye ndetse binasaba gutekerezaho cyane kandi burya abagabo bakunda kuruhuka mu mutwe biganirira ibintu bitabasaba gukoresha ingufu z’ubwonko. Nubigenza gutya bizatuma akanya yagaha abandi wenda ari nko mu kabari kugira ngo aruhuke mu mutwe aganira n’abandi bisekera. Ariko niba unyuzamo ukamusetsa, mukaganira ku bintu bisanzwe bituma munezerwa bizatuma aguha akanya kandi ajye ahora agukumbuye. Ugomba rero kwiga uburyo wajya ukina n’umugabo wawe mukishima kandi mugaseka.

Uburyo 5 bwo Kumenya Niba Umukobwa w'Inshuti Yawe Agukunda

2011-05-05T22:19:00.000-07:00

Kuba umukobwa yarakwemereye ko agukunda ntibihagije guhita ubyemera nk’ukuri kuko hari igihe ashobora kubyemera bitewe n’inyungu akubonamo . Ugomba rero kubanza ukitonda ugashishoza, ukareba ko agukunda koko . Dore bimwe mu byakugaragariza ko agukunda bya nyabyo:

1 Yifuza kukuba hafi iteka

Ahora iteka ashaka kuba hafi yawe, igihe mutari kumwe akakwandikira akubaza amakuru cyangwa se akaguhamagara ntarindire ko ari wowe umuhamagara gusa; ahanini uzumva akubaza niba wageze mu rugo mu gihe ukora cyangwa se uri umunyeshuri. Aba yumva kandi ashaka kumenya uko wiriwe, mbese uko umunsi wakugendekeye. Umukobwa ugukunda kandi uzumva yishimira kumenya gahunda zawe no kumenya ibyo utegenya gukora mu minsi y’ikiruhuko nka week-end .

Nawe kandi arakureka ukamenya amakuru ye ndetse nawe ubwe ukamumenya. Bene uyu mukobwa ntashobora kwibagirwa kuguhamagara cyangwa kukuvugisha ku itariki y’agaciro mu buzima bwanyu. Muri make, agerageza kumarana nawe igihe kirekire.

2 Akwereka umuryango we n’incuti ze

Uru aba ari urukundo rwuzuye kandi ni iby’agaciro mu gihe umukobwa afashe icyemezo cyo kukwereka ababyeyi be cyangwa abandi bantu bo mu muryango we ndetse n’inshuti ze za hafi adashatse kukugumisha mu kigare kimwe. Uyu mukobwa kandi ngo aba ashaka kugushyira hafi ye kugira ngo ukomeze umwiyumvemo ku bundi buryo. Ikindi umukobwa ugukunda yishimirako buri muntu amenya ko muri kumwe kandi akavuga ko mukundana uri inshutiye ya mbere.

3 Ni umukobwa wihagararaho kandi ugufitiye icyizere

Umukobwa nk’uyu aguha umwanya wawe wo gusohoka n’inshuti zawe kandi ntibimutere ikibazo. Ubundi azagera aho ategure kuza kukureba ari kumwe na bagenzi be. Ubushuti bufite icyizere bumara igihe kinini, buraramba kandi bukagenda bwaguka; ni ukuvuga ko umukobwa ukwizera akenshi aba anagukunda.

4 Umukobwa ugukunda rimwe na rimwe aragufuhira

Kuba umukunzi wawe agufuhira ntibizagutere ikibazo kuko burya iyo abagore bafushye bihita bigaragarira buri wese . Gufuha ntabwo ari ikimenyetso cy’urwango ahubwo ni urukundo rwinshi aba yifitemo; ni ukuvuga ko gufuha ari ikimenyetso cy’urukundo. Nubona ikintu cyose uzakora kitababaza umukobwa mukundana cyangwa se ukabona atajya agufuhira na gato, uzamenye ko uwo mukobwa atakwitayeho .

5 Azakwibwirira ko agukunda

Ubundi ngo mu mibereho y’abakobwa hari amagambo abagora gukoresha nko kubwira umuhungu ko amukunda. Niwumva rero abivuze uzamenye ko byamuvunnye cyane . Burya umukobwa utagukunda by’ukuri ntiyapfa kubumbura umunwa we ngo akubwire ko agukunda yumva mu byiyumviro bye atari ko bimeze. Umukobwa rero uzakubwira ko agakunda uzamenyeko nta n’ikibazo yagira isi yose imenye ko agukunda; mbega aba akwishimiye anishimiye kuba ari kumwe nawe.

Niba rero ufite umukobwa wita ko ari inshuti yawe (girlfriend) ,ugasanga mu bimenyetso tuvuze haruguru nta na kimwe afite cyangwase akugaragariza menya ko atagukunda na buhoro ahubwo urebe uburyo wabona undi ugukunda kandi ubikwereka mu bikorwa no mu magambo.

Impamvu 9 Zituma Abasore Batinya Guhita Bashaka

2011-05-05T22:07:00.000-07:00

1.Abasore basigaye bakundana, bakabona ibintu byose bisa niby’umugabo washatse umugore kandi bo batararushinga.

Niba rero uri umukobwa ugakorera umuhungu mukundana ibintu byose ,ukamwitangira nkaho ari umugabo wawe ngo ntuzategereze ko azagushyira mu rugo mu buryo bwihuse aha ngo aba abona gushaka ntacyo bimubwiye kuko aba abona ntaho atandukaniye n’abamaze kurushinga.

2.Hari igihe umubyeyi we aba atarahiriwe n’urushako, bigatuma umusore yumva atifuza kuba mu buzima nk’ubwo umubyeyi we yabayemo

Burya ngo abagabo benshi bakunda kubaho mu buzima bw’urukundo rutagira amakemwa. Iyo yumva rero gushaka atazabigiriramo ibyishimo usanga bihita bimuca intege cyane iyo azi ko n’umubyeyi we yahuye n’icyo kibazo. Aha umuntu yatanga urugero nk’iyo ababyeyi b’uyu muhungu batabanye neza bikagera naho batandukana(Divorce),cyangwa se bakabaho batumvikana na gato. Ibi bituma yanga ibyo gushaka ndetse akaba atanapfa guhita abikora kuko aba abona byamukururira ibibazo

3.Hari igihe aba yumva atarahaga irari rya gisore

Iyo umusore yumva atarahaga ubusore bwe , aba yumva kurongora bizamubangamira bikamubuza kwiryohereza ubuzima ijana ku ijana uko abyifuza, agahitamo kuba abiretse.

4.Hari igihe aba yumva atifuza ko umukobwa bari kumwe yazamubera mama w’abana be.

Kuri iyi ngingo umusore aba yishimira kugendana nawe (umukobwa), kuba basangira akumva nta kibazo ariko akumva atari (wo)we yifuza ko mwabana akaramata. Bitavuze ko utari mwiza -ushobora kuba uri mwiza n’abantu bose babibona- ariko we akumva utari ku rwego rw’umukobwa yifuza kuzabana nawe. Ibi rero nibyo bituma umusore amara igihe kinini adashaka kandi abantu bazi ko afite inshuti.

5.Ushobora kuba utaramugoye mu kumwemerera urukundo

Abagabo benshi bakunda abakobwa babarushya mbere y’uko bakundana. Niyo ngo waba uri mwiza gute ariko utaramugoye aba yumva bidahagije; maze akumva hari ikibura. Abagabo bakunda kubanza kuvunika mbere yo kugera ku kintu.

6. Ushobora kuba uri umukobwa uteye uko umuhungu mukundana adakunda

Abahungu bamwe na bamwe bakunda kureba imiterere y’bakobwa, akavuga ati: “njye umukobwa tuzabana azaba areshya atya, apima ibiro bingana gutya” n’ibindi. Iyo rero ibyo ashaka utabyujuje ngo ntuzategereze ko muzabana akaramata. Ashobora kuba yishimira uburyo mubanye n’ imyitwarire yawe ariko yakureba akabona atari wowe mukobwa w’inzozi ze.

7.Iyo umuhungu abona nta cyerekezo cyangwa se intumbero ufite mu byo ukora ntiyapfa kugushaka

Hari igihe umuhungu aba abona uri wa mukobwa utagira icyo yamufasha mu gihe muzaba mubana mu nzu-nko kubirebana no gushaka amafaranga azatunga urugo rwanyu akaba abona ntacyo byakubwira- aha ngo umuhungu ntiyagira imbaraga zo kugushyira mu rugo.

8.Iyo abona uri umukobwa ushobora ku mucunga; mbega ngo ukaba wamuhozaho ijisho

Igihe umusore yamaze kuvumbura ko uri wa mukobwa wamuhozaho ijisho, ugahora umucunga, ngo yibaza noneho igihe mwaba mubana ukuntu ibintu byaba bimeze, agafata umwanzuro wo kuba akwihoreye mu gihe arimo kwishakira umukobwa uzamuha amahoro ye uko ayifuza.

9.Ashobora kuba ashaka kwigeragereza amahirwe

Uyu musore aba atarafata umwanzuro mu rukundo . Iyo muri kumwe aba yumva yajya kugerageza n’ahandi, aba ngo yumva undi mukobwa utari wowe ari we wamukunda kurusha uko umukunda. Umuhungu nk’uyu ahora agerageza; aba afite abakobwa bakorana imibonano mpuzabitsina ariko ntakuremo uzamubera umugore.

Uburyo 43 wakwerekamo umukobwa ko umukunda

2011-05-05T06:23:00.000-07:00

1. Mufate neza mu buryo bwose bugushobokeye

2. Fata umwanya uhagije wo kumuvugisha

3. Musangize amwe mu mabanga y’ubuzima bwawe

4. Niba muri kumwe ukabona asa n’ufite imbeho, igomwe umuhe umupira cyangwa furari wambaye, umwereke ko adashobora kubaho nabi igihe cyose akigufite.

5. Musome kenshi igihe muri kumwe neza kandi gahoro.

6. Muhobere igihe umukumbuye cyangwa ushaka kumwereka ko ari uw’agaciro, burya hari udukorwa duto tuvuga kurusha amagambo.

7. Mufate mu ntoki umureba mu maso.

8. Sekana nawe kandi umufashe kugira ibihe byiza bitewe n’ibyo akunda

9. Rimwe na rimwe, nta yindi mpamvu ibiteye, jya umutumira ahantu atari asanzwe azi, umwereke ibintu bishya atari asanzwe abona kenshi kuko iyo umuhoza mu bintu bimwe bigera aho bikamurambira

10. Jya umutumira igihe uri kumwe n’inshuti zawe. Erega arifuza kukugirira icyizere no kwisanzura mu nshuti zawe ndetse no kubona ko nazo zimwishimiye.

11. Kenshi jya ukunda kumufotora no kwifotozanya nawe kuko abakobwa burya bakunda amafoto cyane, cyangwa umukorere CD iriho amafoto yanyu, aho ushobora no kuyaherekezanya uturirimbo tw’urukundo uziko akunda, cyangwa dufite icyo tubibutsa mwembi.

12. Rimwe na rimwe, jya ugirana nawe gahunda zindi zitari iz’ urukundo, mushobora nko gukorana imishinga ibyara inyungu, gukora nk’igikorwa cyo kujya gusura abarwayi kwa muganga nko ku cyumweru, kujya gutemberera ahantu nko mu giturage mwabaga kera, n’ibindi

13. Nakubwira ko agukunda, jya ubimusubirishamo kenshi, umwereke ko kuba yaraguhaye urukundo ari ikintu uha agaciro gakomeye mu buzima bwawe!

14. Niba muri kumwe n’inshuti ze zikamwereka cyangwa zikamubwira ko zimukunda cyangwa ko zimwitayeho kukurusha, jya ubihakana umuhobera cyane umwiyegereza, umubwire ko urukundo umufitiye nta n’uwabasha kurupima, ibi bituma yumva akunzwe cyane kandi bimurinda kumva ko hari undi muntu n’umwe yakurutisha mu buzima bwe.

15. Buri gihe niyo byanaba buri kanya yewe, jya umuhobera cyane umwiyegereze, ubundi umwongorere ko umukunda.

16. Jya umusoma mu gihe we atari abyiteguye

17. Atari abyiteguye nabwo jya umuhobera umuturutse mu mugongo, urebe uburyo abyakira.

18. Jya umubwira ko ari mwiza ahebuje, gusa ntukamubwire ko ari segisi (sexy). Abasore benshi bajya bakora aya makosa, gusa hano nakubwira ko umukobwa aba yifuza kumva ko ari mwiza imbere y’umukunzi we kurusha kumubwira ko ari segisi.

19. Jya umubwira uburyo umwiyumvamo kandi utamubeshye.

20. Nimuba murimo kugendana jya umutanga imbere umufungurire imiryango, umuherekeze ku modoka ye niba ayifite, ubanze umufungurire umuryango, nimuba mugiye kumeza ubanze umuhereze isahani ye, nibinashoboka unamushyirireho ibiryo, erega bishimisha cyane abakobwa kandi nawe ndatekereza ko nta gihombo kirimo kugaragaza iyo mico myiza (kuba gentleman)

21. Mubwire ko asobanuye byose kuri wowe kandi mu kubivuga jya ubivuga koko ubikuye ku mutima, unamureba mu maso.

22. Niba ubona ko atameze neza, hari ikitagenda, ukabona adashaka kubivugaho, jya umubwira ko uhari, umuhobere cyane, umwiyegereze kandi umubwire ko igihe cyose akeneye urutugu rwo kwegamaho no kuririraho uhari, unamubwire ko nta kibazo kuba atabikubwiye, ko ariko igihe cyose yumva abohotse kubikubwiraho, uzaba uhari kandi witeguye kumwumva no kumufasha! Si byiza guhita uhutiraho no kumubaza cyane kuko hari igihe biba bigoye guhita agira icyo akubwira muri ako kanya nawe atarabyakira neza

23. Jya utuma yumva akunzwe, icyo byagusaba cyose

24. Jya umusoma imbere y’abandi bakobwa, baba ari inshuti ze cyangwa izawe, bituma agira icyizere ko umukunda kandi bigutera ishema, ukaba udashobora no kumuca inyuma.

25. Ntukigere na rimwe umubeshya kabone n’iyo waba ubona bigoye kumubwiza ukuri ku kintu runaka, kuko iyo amenye ko umubeshye n’iyo kaba ari akantu gato, arababara kandi akagutakariza icyizere.

26. Ntukamuce inyuma kuko bariya bandi nta kintu na kimwe bamurusha, iyaba byari ibyo ntiyari kuba ari we wahisemo

27. Jya umujyana ahantu hose yifuza kujya, nawe arakuzi azi n’ubushobozi bwawe humura ntazakugora, ariko rero nawe jya ugerageza kumushimisha.

28. Jya umwandikira ubutumwa bugufi, unamuhamagare buri gitondo umubaza uko yaramutse n’uko ijoro rye ryari rimeze, kandi buri gihe jya umubwira utujambo twiza. Mwaba muri kumwe cyangwa mutari kumwe, ugerageze kumenya gahunda ze zose; niba yariye, niba yabashije kuruhuka, ese amasomo/ akazi biragenda, n’ibindi…

29. Jya uhamubera igihe cyose agukeneye, ndetse n’igihe atagukeneye, ibyo bizatuma abona ko igihe icyo ari cyo cyose ashobora kukwizera no kukugirira icyizere.

30. Jya umufata mu maboko yawe cyane igihe afite ubwoba cyangwa akonje, bimuha umutuzo cyane.

31. Nimuba muri mwenyine jya umwereka ko ushaka kumufata mu maboko yawe, umusome, umurebe mu maso nibura nk’umunota umwe cyangwa myinshi, umwereke ko nta wundi usa nawe

32. Niba muri kumwe, musome mu gahanga (ibi bizamwereka ko wifuza kumusoma urebe niba nawe ari uko.)

33. Niba mwicaye murimo kurebana agafilimi keza k’urukundo cyangwa akandi kose akunda, mushyire ukuboko ku rutugu, nawe azahita akwegamishaho umutwe bityo murebane filimi mu buryo buri romantiki.(romantique)

34. Niyo waba urakaye ute, ntugakinishe na rimwe kumubwira ngo nahite agenda, kabone n’iyo waba wikiniraga, kuko ushobora kujya kubona ukabona agiye agiye da! Niba arakaye jya umuba hafi, umufashe; niba akubabaje ntumwereke ko urakaye cyane ariko umubwire ko bitagushimishije, n’agusaba imbabazi umwumve kandi ntugakunde impaka no kubigira birebire.

Ibi byose, ubutaha nimuba muri kumwe ntuzabyibagirwe, kuko bibazanira umunezero mwembi kandi mu byukuri nta kigoye kirimo

35. Niba abantu barimo kumuvuga nabi no kumunegura, ujye uhamubera, ubabwire ko urukundo umufitiye ruruta byose kandi ko uko byaba bimeze kose ntacyakubuza kumukunda no kuhamubera

36. Nujya kumubwira ko umukunda, jya ubimubwira umureba mu maso kandi umubwira ibyo wiyumvamo!

37. Rimwe na rimwe jya umujyana hanze, nko muri jardin, ari nijoro hari ukwezi hasa neza, umuryamishe mu gituza cyawe yiyumvire uko umutima wawe utera uterera mu we, ushyire intoki zawe mu ze, ariko urimo kumwongorera utujambo tw’urukundo mu matwi nawe ahumirije amaso ye arimo kwiyumvira rya jwi akunda kandi yishimira kuruta ayandi yose!

38. Niba murimo kugendana, mufate mu ntoki kandi bigutere ishema ryo kuba yitwa uwawe

39. Niba muhuye mutari muherukanye, mwereke urukumbuzi wari umufiitiye, umuhobere mu gihe kirekire gishoboka

40. Buri joro jya umuhamagara umwifurize ijoro ryiza, n’indoto nziza

41. Jya umuhumuriza niba akuririye, kandi jya ujyana umubabaro yari afite kure ye

42. Jya umusaba ko mwatemberana mu ijoro, mufate igihe kinini mwigendagendera, mwiganirira, mwisekera, musa n’abakina,…

43. Buri gihe jya umwibutsa uburyo umukunda

BOYFRIEND WANJYE YANGA KUNYAZA NGO NI UMWANDA

2010-01-17T06:03:00.000-08:00

BOYFRIEND WANJYE YANGA KUNYAZA NGO NI UMWANDA

Claudine
Murakoze mfite ikibazo iyo mpuye na boyfriend wanjye nkamubwira ngo anyaze arabyanga ngo ntabyo azi. Kandi ambwira ngo ni umwanda mu buriri. Nzabigenze gute?

IGISUBIZO

Bangambiki:
CLAUDINE ni byo kunyaza bishobora kwanduza uburiri, uzashake agasambi kabigenewe kandi umuganirize kugira ngo yumve akamaro kabyo

INKURU BISA

1.Dore Uko Banyaza!

2.Kunyaza Bita Gukama

3.Kunyaza Bita Gukamisha

4.Kunyaza Bita Gukunguta

5.Kunyaza Bita Gutsibura

6.Kunyaza Bita Kujabagira

7.Kunyaza Bita Kunyatiriza

8.Kunyaza n'Urutoki

9.Kunyaza Uhagaze

10.Kunyaza Wicaje

11.Kunyaza Wicaje Ku Ntebe

12.Ibitekerezo ku Kunyaza

GUSWERWA HABONA CYANGWA HATABONA ICYIZA NI IKIHE

2010-01-07T05:58:00.000-08:00

GUSWERWA HABONA CYANGWA HATABONA ICYIZA NI IKIHE?

Diane
Ari uguswera cg se guswerwa ku manywa cg hatabona ibyaba byiza ni ibihe Kubera iki se?

IGISUBIZO

koffi
guswera ku manwa nibyo byiza kuko bituma mumenyana neza ,kd abahungu bose nzi ko aribyo bifuza ,kureba neza igituba cy'umukobwa bari kumwe.

INKURU BISA

1.Uburyo Bunyuranye bwo Guswera

2.Guswera ni iki?

Mbese Indayi Iruta Umugore?

2009-12-15T10:09:00.000-08:00

Iki ni igitekerezo umusomyi yasize ku Igituba.org kuri ino nkuru "UKO NAKOZE KU GITUBA CY'UMUKOBWA UBWA MBERE

":

ICO NSHIMA INDAYI

Hari ibituma vyinshi abagabo bo mumiji bishimira kurondera indaya iyo bashatse gushimishwa n` igitsina:

- Indaya ikubwira karibu neza ikwereka ko igushaka mugihe hari abagore bagerageza kwumvisha abagabo ko barushe imissi yose

-Iyo mwumvikanye kw`ibeyi indayi itega amaguru neza, ikagushukwisha, ikakunyongera yinihisha.Umugore wanje aragarama gusa ibisigaye nkimenya aho vyoryoshe akinamura ngo ndarushe nyarutsa.

-Amafaranga yo guha indayi iyo ifise aho ipanze ni makeya cane ntashobora gukenesha uwo ariwe wese.

-Ikindi, indayi yamana agakingirizo, iragushukwisha,ikakakwambika,

ikagushirira imboro mugituba, ikakakwambura uhejeje,ikanaguha n` amazi yo gukaraba.Umugore wanje ambwira ko arije no muhanagura iyo yibutse kukimpa nka rimwe mu ndwi, no gufungura ntiyigera ambwira karibu, hari aho ndamurindira nateba ndaba television nkabona arahejeje gufungura akambaza ngo uno musi nturya?Ikimuryohera niyo ndamuteguriye icayi canke ivyamwa arya avuye kukazi ariko nta merci ndamwumvana.

-Icanyuma, ntawumenya ikingeza iyo nigiriye kuraba indayi.Ino mpereye ibihumbi bitatu kumuswero umwe ubibuze waza ugomba ugapfa.Ariko ntimwime umubiri ico ushaka ngo mwihatiye amashetani y` abagore. Gura igituba kw` iduka, baza abahabona.igisubizo kuri bukombea@yahoo.fr

Inkuru bisa

Kuki Igituba cy'Ikibano Kiryoha?
Guswera Indayi
Indayi Zirashukana

KUNYAZA,IBANGA RYO GUSOHORA KW'ABAGORE

2009-10-18T21:47:00.000-07:00

Ibanga ryo Guswera

2009-10-11T09:16:00.000-07:00

Igitekerezo cya Peter. Nakongeraho ko ugomba kumenya kumuganiriza ngo
akiguhane ubwuzu
http://womensecretsrevealed.blogspot.com

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From: PETER <noreply-comment@blogger.com>
Date: Sun, 11 Oct 2009 08:38:12 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: [IGITUBA] New comment on IMBORO NTO.
To: bangambiki@igituba.org

PETER has left a new comment on your post "IMBORO NTO":

GUTSERA NEZA BITERWA N'UBWUZU UMUKOBWA AGUHAANYE IGITUBA IYO AKIGUHAYE
ATABISHAKA NEZA NAWE UCIKA INTEGE

Mbese Gukuna Biracyakenewe

2009-10-10T09:44:00.000-07:00

Igitekerezo cy'umusomyi. Shyiraho igitekerezo cyawe
http://igitubaproject.blogspot.com
http://videozakutombana.blogspot.com

Kuki imboro igwa ntarangije guswera

2009-10-09T07:09:00.000-07:00

None se usanzwe ugira ibibazo byo kudashyukwa?Niba atari ibyo uba
wumva ko iyo uhagije umugore uba urangije akazi, ni ugushimishana.
Ibyo biba no ku bagore umugabo yamara kurangiza umugore ati"wikirirwa
ukomeza nta kibazo mfite".Biterwa no kumenyerana cyane ya maji
y'urukundo rushyushye imaze gushira, niyo mpamvu abakundana bagomba
kwita ku rukundo rwabo kuko "nta rurabo rutoha rutuhiwe".

2009/10/9, Twagirayezu Spiridio <tspiridio@yahoo.fr>:
>
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>
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> Muraho ? Ni mpamvu ki ituma rimwe na rimwe nkora imibonano
> mpuzabitsina n'umugore wanjye akarangiza, njyewe igitsina cyanjye kigata
> umurego hatabayeho gusohora (éjaculation) ? Bishoboka mwansubiza vuba .
> Murakoze.
>
>
>

Kuki ntakunda gushyukwa

2009-10-07T08:54:00.000-07:00

Kuri iki kibazo cyo gushyukwa soma hano
http://www.igituba.org/2008/02/iyo-ngiye-guswera-imboro-ndayibura.html

2009/10/7, françois xavier niyitegeka <fraxan@yahoo.fr>:
> Muraho? Nasomye site yanyu mbona mushobora kumfasha, muzi ko abagabo benshi
> babyukana umushyukwe mu gjtondo ariko njye mbiheruka nkiri muto, nkeka ko
> byaba bjterwa n'uko kera nkiri muri secondaire nakundaga kwikinisha ariko
> simbihamya none nakora iki ko iyo ngiye guswera ntinda gushyukwa cyane, ku
> buryo umugore mbona yarambiwe kandi n' iyo nshyutswe nta murego ufatika mba
> mfite ku bburyo ntanakwambara prudence. rwose mumfashe mungire inama .
> Murakoze ni Frank
>
> __________________________________________________
> Do You Yahoo!?
> En finir avec le spam? Yahoo! Mail vous offre la meilleure protection
> possible contre les messages non sollicités

Wamenya ute ko umukobwa abishaka

2009-10-05T00:59:00.000-07:00

Uyu musomyi arabaza

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Date: Sun, 4 Oct 2009 09:45:38 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: [IGITUBA] New comment on AMOKO Y'IBITUBA.
To: bangambiki@igituba.org

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "AMOKO Y'IBITUBA":

ese ufute inshuti mugakunda kuganira cyane, wamenya gute ko abishaka
utarinze kubimusaba,ambese agaragaza ate ibimenyetso byumushyukwe,
muzansubize mukoresheje iyi e-mail (rezetwi@yahoo.fr), ndifuza cyane
cyane ibisubizo byabakombwa nyirubwite

IMBORO ISIRAMUYE N'IDASIRAMUYE

2009-08-22T11:06:00.000-07:00

IMBORO ISIRAMUYE N'IDASIRAMUYE

Posted: 22 Aug 2009 02:38 AM PDT

http://www.laughingtonpost.com
Laugh Aloud!

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From: HABYARIMANA BANGAMBIKI <bangambiki@igituba.org>
Date: Sat, 22 Aug 2009 11:32:20 +0200
Subject: IMBORO ISIRAMUYE N'IDASIRAMUYE
To: Singirankabo J Damasene <damusing12@yahoo.fr>

Komera Damascene, usiramuye n'udasiramuye bose baswera neza iyo bazi
icyo bakora. Ubushakashatsi buvuga ko usiramuye atinda kurangiza kuko
umutwe w'imboro uba wambaye ubusa waragabanyije ubworohe(sensibilité)
kubera guhora yikuba ku myenda, ibi bituma atinda kurangiza bityo
agahaza umugore gusa iyo bikabije ababaza umugore. Imboro idasiramuye
ni karemano kandi iswera neza danger gusa ni iyo gusohora vuba kuko
iryoherwa vuba. Ugomba kwirinda gusohora vuba nkuko tubisobanura mu
gitabo KUNYAZA GUKUNA GUSWERA kiri ku http://www.igituba.org
Kuri iyo famille bazegere muganga.
ibitabo twanditse biri hano
http://bangbooks.blogspot.com
inkuru z'igitsina
http://igitubaproject.blogspot.com
http://www.laughingtonpost.com

2009/8/21, Singirankabo J Damasene <damusing12@yahoo.fr>:
> muraho. mporambashimira inama mudahwema kutugira niyo mpamvu numva nahora
> mbasobanuza ibyansobaniye. none se ni irihe tandukaniro hagati y' umuntu
> ukora imibonano mpuzabitsina yarisiramuje n' undi utarisiramuza ? ninde
> urangiza mberekandibiterwa niki, ninde uryoherwa cyane kurusha undi? ninde
> uryohereza umugore cyane kurusha undi.
>
> ikindi kibazo mfite umugabo w'inshuti yanjye umugorewe yambwiye ko
> ntanarimwe aramurangiriza kandi uwo mugabo yanze kujya kwa muganga ngo
> batazamusea kandi yiyubashye cyane mwagira namaki uwo mugabo cyangwa uwo
> mugore. MURAKOZE KANDI Imana ibahe umugisha
>
>
>

KUKI NTINDA GUSHYUKWA

2009-08-21T11:08:00.001-07:00

IGITABO KU KUNYAZA NO GUKUNA PAR BANGAMBIKI ET LATOUTE

2009-08-19T11:10:00.001-07:00

Sakwe Sakwe

2009-08-08T11:04:00.001-07:00

Guhuza Igitsina Bwa Mbere-Ku Bahungu

2009-07-01T12:04:00.001-07:00

Abahungu benshi bagira akantu ko kwihagararaho ku buryo niyo bagiye gukora imibonano mpuza bitsina ku nshuro ya mbere baba bameze nkaho babikoze mbere. Ariko burya baba bafite ubwoba bwa hatari.

Ibibazo Abahungu Bakunze kwibaza

Ese ndibubikunde?
Ese ndibushimishe mugenzi wange?
Ese niwe koko tugomba gukorana imibonano mpuza bitsina?
Ese ndibuze kuyihagurutsa? Ese ndabishobora ntanseka

Ibi ni ibibazo abahungu benshi bibaza mbere yo gukora imibonano mpuza bitsina. Muby’ ukuri rero inshuro ya mbere ntabwo igenda uko umuntu aba yabitekereje, abahungu benshi bemeza ko umuhungu arangiza vuba cyane kandi ibintu bidakozwe neza.

KWITEGURA

Icyintu cya mbere ugomba gutekerezaho ni umuntu mugiye gukorana imibonano mpuza bitsina. Uwo muntu agomba kuba agukunda kandi nawe umukunda, kugirango ibintu biramutse bigenze nabi mufashanye nta soni cyangwa kwitana bamwana. Abahungu benshi bahubukira mu mibonano mpuza bitsina batarabyitegura kubera inshuti zabo ziba zarabikoze kandi zikabaseka ngo ntibarabikora,. Ibyo ntacyo bivuze na gato! Ntawuzi igihe agomba gutegereza. Icyo ugomba kw’itaho nuko utazicuza impamvu wabikoze nyuma yaho.

Dore ibibazo bimwe na bimwe wakwibaza:

-Mugenzi wange mufitiye ikizere?
-Ese dushobora kumarana igihe kirekire?
-Hari umuntu cyangwa ikintu birimo gutuma mpubuka?

Ikindi kandi, uramutse wumvishe utabishaka cyangwa utarabyitegura neza, nta mpanvu yo guhubuka, wategereza. Kandi na mugenzi wawe ari umuntu ugukunda yabyumva akagufasha kugirango witegure.

INAMA

Kuganira ni kimwe mu bintu bituma imibonano mpuza bitsina igenda neza, mwabiganira mbere yo kubikora na nyuma kugirango mubwirane ibyagenze neza n’ibitagenze neza. Iyo mubivuganye mujya kubikora mwese mubyiteguye.

Ushobora guhagarika imibonano igihe cyose ushakiye, mwaba mwatangiye cyangwa mutaratangira, ntakibazo, upfa kuba wumva udashaka gukomeza, si ngombwa gukora ibintu kuberako bishimisha mugenzi wawe kandi wowe bitagushimisha.

Niba ugize ibibazo igitsina cyawe kikanga guhaguruka (gushyukwa) ntago biba bigoranye cyane kuko ni ibintu bishobora kubaho ku nshuro za mbere. Icyo wakora ni ukutabitekerezaho cyane ngo wumve ko isi yahagaze, kuko kubitekereza muri ubwo buryo byatuma ukomeza kunanirwa gushyukwa. Ahubwo wakwitonda ukongera ukagerageza hashize akanya cyangwa se ku munsi ukurikira. Niba mugenzi wawe mwumvikana ntakibazo yagutera, ahubwo ashobora kubigufashamo mu buryo butandukanye...

Ikintu gikomeye tugomba kwibuka ni ukwirinda, tugakoresha agakingirizo kuko idwara nka sida n’ibibazo bishobora guturuka mu mibonano mpuza bitsina ari nyinshi. Udukikingirizo tuboneka ahantu hose mu gihugu, haba mu ma kiosque cyangwa se muri za pharmacie.

Guhuza Igitsina Bwa Mbere-Ku Bakobwa

2009-07-01T11:56:00.001-07:00

Abakobwa benshi baba bafite ubwoba ku nshuro ya mbere y'imibonano mpuza bitsina.

Ese ndabikunda?
ese ndibubabare?
ese ndibushimishe inshuti yange?
ese iyi nshuti niyo nyayo?

Ibyo ni bimwe mu bibazo abakobwa bibaza mbere yo gukora imibonano mpuza bitsina ku nshuro ya mbere. Mu byukuri rero inshuro za mbere ntabwo zibukwa neza mu buzima... abakobwa benshi bemezako inshuro za mbere ziryana ho gatoya, ko ziba zidashimishije cyane, iyo rero umaze kumenyera nibwo utangira kumva no kumenya neza ibyiza by’ imibonano mpuza bitsina.

Kwitegura guhuza Igitsina ubwa mbere

Icya mbere ugomba gutekerezaho ni umuntu muri kumwe. Iyo nshuti muba mugiye gukorana imibonano ugomba kuba uyikunda nayo igukunda bihagije. Abakobwa benshi bahubukira mu mibonano mpuza bitsina bataritegura neza kubera ko inshuti zabo zibirukansa cyane cyangwa hari ibyo zibemereye nk'amafaranga n'ibindi. Niba umuhungu adashobora gutegereza igihe wunva uri witeguye kugirango mubikore mureke ntacyo aba akumariye... Nta mpamvu yo kubikora nyuma ukicuza.

Dore bimwe mu bibazo ushobora kwibaza:

-Uyu mushuti wange mufitiye ikizere?
-Ubu se nyuma yaho tuzagumana cyangwa azigendera?
-Aho sinaba nihuse

Burya niwumva utabyiyumvamo uzabyihorere. Singombwa kuryamana n'umuntu uba ari bubyuke yivuga ibigwi mu nshuti ze...kandi wowe nta nyungu ubifitemo usibye kugutesha icyubahiro kandi abasore nk'abo baragwiriye

Ikintu gikomeye ugomba kumenya nuko ugomba kwirinda ingaruka wavana mu guhuza igitsina n'undi muntu. Waba wirinda gusama cyangwa wirinda indwara zituruka ku mibonano mpuza bitsina ugomba kwirinda bihagije. Ugomba gukoresha agakingirizo uko byagenda kose.

Hari abasore rero badakunze gukoresha udukingirizo, bakagusobanurira muri aya magambo:
-Wapi wana capote ituma ntashyukwa neza...
-Capote ni feke ituma umuntu atumva uburyohe....
-Ewana aho nagiye kuzigura nasanze zashize...

Ntibakakubeshye, udukingirizo tugurishwa ahantu henshi haba mu ma boutique cyangwa muri za pharmacie, nawe ushobora kukigurira ntakibazo.

Bakobwa rero nababwira iki nimwitonde mubyirukane umuco n’ubwitonzi nyarwanda.

Byose ku Gusohora

2009-05-29T06:21:00.000-07:00

GUSOHORA

Amaherezo y'inzira ni mu nzu.
Ibitekerezo,ibibazo n'ibisubizo birebana no gusohora mu bitsina byombi

Gusohora kw'Abagabo

Gusohora kw'Abagore

Kuki Abagore Batinda Gusohora?

Akadomo ka GRAFENBERG ni iki?Kamaze Iki mu Gusohora k'Umugore?

Ndaswera Ariko Sinsohora

Kuki Nsohora Vuba?

Kuki Ntakunda Gushyukwa

Iyo Ngiye Guswera Imboro Ndayibura

UMWARI UTAGIRA INENGE

2009-03-14T10:45:00.001-07:00

UMWARI UTAGIRA INENGE

Umuvugo wagenewe abakobwa b'u

Rwanda

Ndate umwari utagira inenge
Reka murate utagira uko asa
Nsange zuba ryo ku museso
Ngende nsure museke weya.

Naramubonye Nyiramukesha
Inyenyeri nziza yo mu gitondo
Iburira ijoro kudatinda
Igaha ikaze umunsi mwiza.

Ka muririmbire nyakuratwa
Reba umusatsi ni umusana
Reba amaso ni inyenyeri
Kandi amabere ni amahembe.

Reke murate uwo Nyampinga
Atuye atatse amasaro hose
Afite ubwiza bumena amaso
Acanira ijoro nk’ukwezi

Reka murate uwo Ikibasumba
Sugi nziza itatse isura
Si ku mubyimba gusa murata
No muri roho ni umuringa

Mutima utuje utemba ineza
Reka ngusange ntambe ineza
Dore ugusanze ntasuherwa
Inseko yawe ni umuseso

Ngwino ngwino rurabo-roza
Ukwize hose umubavu wawe
Ni wowe bwiza bw’ubusitani
Inzuki zose ziragusannga

Umwari mwiza yanga umwanda
Agahora yitwa Muhorakeye
N’umubonye ati”isuku igira isoko”
Ni ko karande k’abamubyara.

Ni wowe ubitse umuco nyarwanda
Ko umwari mwiza umugayo awanga
Agahora yicaye mu ruhimbi
Ahimbawe atereka ibisabo.

Umwari mwiza ntasamara
Atega yombi abamubyaye
Agatura atuje bitamugoye
Akazarenga urwa Bayanga.

Hari abagukunda uko wariboye
Ntibakubanire uko bikwiye
Ntibature isura yawe
Ntubasureho nagatoya.

Naramubonye uwo basuye
Yarasanzwe atemba itoto
None asigaye atemba itutu
Hano mu rwobo rwa Bayanga.

Maze ababyeyi b’uwo mwari
Ikibunda cyinshi kirabasanga
Ijuru ryose rirabagwira
Bavuma rwose inda yamubyaye.

Niba werekeje iy’inyanja
Ntutetereze musare
Murobe menshi kandi meza
Maze ababyeyi babahe impundu.

Heka heka shema ry’u Rwanda
Shyira imugongo ga urabikwiye
Ni ubyara Rwanda rwejo
Maze tukwite Rugorirwera.

Kuva mu bwangavu ntiwazuyaje
Gutega yombi abakubyaye
Ni na yo mpamvu mu gihe nk’iki
Tukubonyemo umuteguro.

BANGAMBIKI,15/02/2001

Umugore n'Icupa

2009-01-10T05:21:00.000-08:00

Ushobora kunywa inzoga ukwezi kose

Nta kindi utanga ngo ubone inzoga usibye kuyigura(umugore ubanza kumugurira inzoga)

Icupa riba rigutegereza aho warisize ukarihasanga

Icupa ntirigira ishyari iyo uguze irindi

Izina ry'inzoga urishishuraho ntiryange

Urasinda ugasinduka

Ushobora gusangira icupa n'undi muntu

Ushobora kumenya niba uri uwa mbere usomye kuri iryo cupa

Icupa rihora ritose

Icupa ntirisaba uburinganire

Ushobora gufata icupa ku mugaragaro

Icupa rikonje ni ryo rigera ku nyota naho umugore ushyushye niwe ugera ku nyota

Uko Abagore Batekereza

2009-01-01T05:04:00.000-08:00

Uko Abagore Batekereza

NTA KIBAZO:Iri ni ijambo abagore bakunze gukoresha iyo bashaka kurangiza intonganya bazi ko ari bo bafite ukuri ariko bakaba bashaka ko birangira.

IMINOTA ITANU=Bisobanura iminota 30

NTACYO= Ibi bivuga ko "gihari". Iyo umugore umubajije uti "uratekereza iki" ati "ntacyo" burya aba akwibazaho byinshi ashaka kugucurika no kugucurukura, ashaka kukubaza impigi n'akayiziritseho.

BIKORE NIBA UBISHAKA= Ariko umenye ko bizakugaruka kandi ntuzavuge ngo sinakubwiye

URAKOZE CYANE= Urakoze kumpemukira, ninkwishyura ntuzarire.

Ibyishimo n'umunezero mu mushyikirano mpuzabitsina

2008-12-17T22:18:00.000-08:00

Ibyishimo n'umunezero mu mushyikirano mpuzabitsina par Latoute

Iyi nkuru yanditswe na Latoute

Mbanje gushimira Bangambiki washyizeho iri huriro nibwira ko rizafasha benshi mu kuzubaka zigakomera; nshimira na buri wese ugira icyo ahatangariza kugirango bigire icyo byungura uhasuye!

I.Kugira ibyishimo n'umunezero mu mishyikirano mpuzabitsina

Iby'urukundo ni ibintu byimbitse kandi bitanagoye gusobanukirwa cyane iyo hagamijwe kunoza imishyikirano mu guhuza ibitsina.

"Igitsina (Imboro n'Igituba) si iyobera nkuko bivugwa, Igitsina cyaremwe n'Imana , kiremanwa ubuhanga butangaje; cyaremwe muri gahunda yo gushimishirizwamo imibonano mpuzabitsina(cyane iyo iteguwe neza );ni naho dukomora urubyaro (mu gihe habaye gahunda yo gusama). "

Iyi nyandiko nubwo abenshi basanzwe bazi ibiyikubiyemo byabaye ngombwa ko hifashishijwe ubutumwa butandukanye bw'abasura blog "igituba" n'ubuhamya bwa bamwe bagaragaza ibitekerezo byabo; yegerezwa abakunzi ba blog n'inshuti zayo kugira ngo igirire akamaro abayisoma.

Nubwo yibanda cyane ku bikorwa rusange mu rukundo , hagamijwe icyavuzwe haruguru, iranibanda ku ruhare rw'umukobwa n'umugore mu gutegura ejo hazira amakenga mu gihe azaba ageze mu rwe..

1.Imyiteguro y'umukobwa mu guhirwa n'umubano wo gushyingirwa

Gushinga urugo rugahama kandi rukizihirwa ntibiterwa gusa nuko umugore ari umunyamirimo,ahubwo umukobwa witeganyiriza umunezero ashingira ubwenge, ibitekerezo n`ibikorwa bye ku muco wamureze, ugahora umubera nk`iriba avomamo ubuhanga bw`umubano utabangamira rubanda, kandi ntubangamire uwamushatse. Ahora yibuka ko ari we ruhimbi igihugu gishyinguraho umuco wacyo, byonyine bikamubera urumuri mu myifatire ye kuva yitwa umwari kugeza abaye umukecuru rukukuri, atyo agahora yitwa NYAMPINGA. Umukobwa amenyereza kandi na we yimenyereza kwakira abamugana; bityo abakuru n'abamukurikira abadabagiza bose abasangiza ubupfura bakamwita NYIRARUGWIRO.

1..Imyitwarire

Umugore wese aberwa no kugira urugwiro, ibambe n'ubwuzu kandi akaba aribyo ashyira imbere mu mishyikirano ishingiye ku bitsina.Aba yaratojwe kubihorana na we ubwe yarimenyereje kubigaragariza abo babana, ku buryo atajya agira ikimuzindaza ku mugabo wamwishakiye; ndetse niyo mpamvu umukobwa witegura gushyingirwa yibanda kunoza umuco n'imico myiza mbere yo kunoza umubiri, akurikije amajyambere, nayo ubwayo adahwema kwivugurura.

Buri mukobwa agira ishusho imuranga igizwe n'isuku,imvugo, umurimbo w'imyambaro n'imisatsi, isuku y'umubiri cyane igitsina kuko nayo ari isoko y'umunezero! Imvugo nayo yerekana imico ya nyirayo kandi ni ingenzi mu mubano w'abantu!

Umukobwa urimba ashimisha rubanda, agatera umugabo ishema (iyo yiyambitse umwambaro wa gikobwa, arabyina akizihira ibirori mu kibuga) agahora amwishimiye kandi ibyo byishimo bikagaragara mu mibanire n'ibikorwa byabo, maze urugo rwabo rugahora rususurutse! Ibyo nabyo agomba kubitegura!

*Inzitizi

-Ubujiji bwonona ingo nyinshi kuko buzitira ubwumvikane bw'ababana bikadindiza n'iterambere ry'urugo!

-Ubukubaganyi bw'umukobwa bwonona ubwumvikane bw'abashakanye kuko umutima nama we uhora ubimuryoza akabura amahoro ku giti cye, bigatuma n'uwamushatse aburirwa n'amahirwe amutezeho.

Umunezero muhire umukobwa awiteganyiriza cyane cyane yirinda icyo ari cyo cyose kimwangiriza ubusugi ku mubiri, kuri roho mu bitekerezo no mu myifatire, abasore benshi bakunze kuvuga ko nta mukobwa w'isugi ukibaho(ugifite akabambano ndangabusugi),na none ubushakashatsi bwerekanye ko gashobora gucibwa n'izindi mpamvu cyane nk'imirimo myinshi inaniza cyane umubiri, n'imikino ngororangingo imwe n'imwe; ikindi abahanga mu miterere y'umubiri basanze iyo "nyegamo" Atari yo iranga ubusugi bw'umukobwa nyabwo, kuko hari uvuka atayifite! Na none hari

umukobwa ubonana n'umugabo kandi akabambano ke ndangabusugi ntigahungabane na gato.

Ubusugi bw'umukobwa burangwa n'imyifatire ye mu mico, mu migenzereze, mu mibanire na rubanda no mu busabane na bagenzi be.umukobwa urinda ubusugi, yamagana icyo ari cyo cyose kimutera ikinegu imbere y'ababyeyi n'urungano ntiyitwe icyomanzi.

2.Ubuzima bwiza:

Umukobwa witegura yiteganyiriza umunezero, arwanyiriza kugira ubuzima bwiza kuko ari yo ngingo y'ireme mu mibanire ya babiri: agomba kugira amagara mazima kugirango kugirango abshe kwihanganira ingorane zo gusama no kubyara kandi ashobore gucunga ubuzima bwiza bw'abana, bw'umugabo we, n'ubw'abo mu rugo bose kuko nabyo ni umurimo we; azirikana ko ari we mugore n'umubyeyi w'ejo, kandi mu ngorane zimwe na zimwe arahaguruka agakora kigabo.

Abibuka iby'ubuzima ni bacye , ni ngombwa rero kwisuzumisha kwa muganga ngo barebe ko ari bazima mbere yo gushyingirwa ngo "ejo batavaho bashyingiranwa ari abapfu(ba nyakwigendera)"!Biba byiza umukobwa yisuzumishe ndetse akabaza ibibazo muganga kugirango ajijukirwe, ibyo bituma abazabana bashirana amakenga kandi bombi bakabana bizeye rwose ko ari bazima!

*Impungenge

-Abakobwa benshi batinya kwisuzumisha kubera gutinya ko muganga yamusangana indwara cyangwa se akamenya ko ajya akubagana, anatinya ko yamusangana ubugumba cyangwa se izindi nenge, hakaba niyo atinye kwerekana ubwambure bwe cyane cyane iyo akiri isugi, iyo atinyutse, hari bimwe na bimwe abwira muganga kugirango amusuzumane ubwitonzi, hakaba n'ibyo muganga yishakishiriza:igihe agira imugongo, uko aribwa, uko umutima utera, nuko ibihaha bikora kandi akamusuzuma inkari n'amaraso; agasuzuma amatako y'umukobwa areba uko ateye niba atazagira ingorane mu mishyikirano cyangwa niba azabyara bitaruhanyije,…ibyo byose umukobwa abikora agirango yiteganyirize umunezero ku giti cye n'uw'urugo rwe muri rusange, akazirikana ko indwara zishobora gutera ikibazo gikomeye mu byerekeye umubano, ndetse zikanavutsa abashakanye amahirwe n'umunezero n'urubyaro.

Impamvu zo kwisuzumisha

-Kwisuzumisha kwa muganga bifitiye akamaro umusore n'inkumi bashaka kubana bibarinda ibizazane n'ingorane bitabarika.Bituma bombi bishimira kubaka no kubana kandi uwo mubano bakawuha icyubahiro gikwiye.Bituma umukobwa ashira amakenga kandi agasobanukirwa n'umurimo nyakuri mu mubano w'abashakanye; bombi bategura ibyishimo n'umunezero birambye mu muryango.

II.Ubwumvikane mu mushyikirano

Iki gice kirarebana n'igihe umusore n'inkumi bageze mu rwabo n'umurimo w'ibanze ubategereje: na none nk'ibimenyerewe, ndibanda ku bigereranyo kugira ngo birusheho gusobanuka neza; cyane ko hari utumva icyo umugore amarira umugabo mu gihe barimo guhuza ibitsina, abagore benshi bibwira ko ari umurimo w'abagabo kurongora abafasha babo, bo ntacyo babafashaho, ugasanga umugabo ni we ugoka arongora kandi bagomba kurongorana ndetse bombi bakumva uburyohe kimwe!

Urukundo mu bashakanye rugaragarira mu bikorwa byabo byose no mu mibanire ya buri munsi. Kumvikana ntibabiterwa gusa nuko buri wese anogeye undi, ahubwo nukuntu bafatanyije mu mirimo mpuzabitsina nukuntu babyitayeho.

Umurimo w'urukundo mpuzabitsina wagereranywa n'ikivi bateruranye bombi maze bamara kugisoza bakishimira hamwe ibihembo bibategereje, mu gihe bagihinga umugore ntiyakwirushya ngo akenyere ageze ku birenge cyangwa ngo yambare imishanana (imikenyero), ntiyanambara ibimukobetse ngo bimubuze gutambuka no guterura isuka ngo asoze ikivi cye kandi umugabo adashoboye guhinga aha bombi: umugore yirwanaho akoresheje uburyo bwe, ubwenge n'imbaraga ze agatura ikivi cye. Na none ashobora kwiyambaza umugabo we igihe ageze ahakomeye akahamukubitira isuka, igihe ahuye n'ikibuye akakimuhigikira, yagera ku gihuru akakimutemera; ndetse byaba ngombwa akamusaba kumutangirira ikivi yananirirwa hagati ati"nzamura". Bagakomereza hamwe uko babishoboye, ikivi bakagitura, bakabona gusangira ibihembo n'umunezero bakesha umurimo wabo.

Imbogamizi: niba umugore adafite imbaraga zihagije zo gusoza ikivi cye, cyangwa se niba yahishe umugabo we ko akeneye inkunga, ntamubwire n'ukuntu yifuza ko amuyamba, azamusiga aharure icye undi akiri epfo yaharuhiye. Ibyo bimutera umwaga n'uburakari, ashobora kwivumbura kubera umujinya ibyo gusoza ikivi agaparikiraho ageze. Nakomeza atyo nta na rimwe azanezerwa ngo yishimire ibihembo by'umurimo we; kandi nta rimwe umugabo we azamwishimira. Niho havamo ko umugabo amusiga mu rugo akijyana yagira amahirwe akabona umufasha icyo kivi! Nyiranaka na we akaguma muri iyo "routine" ngo ahari niko zubakwa azira kudasobanura!

Ubuzima bwiza, imbaraga, urugwiro,urukundo, Ibyo byose ni Intwaro z'umugore wifuzq ko umurimo we mpuzabitsina uba indakemwa: bituma ahora yibuka ko nubwo umugabo we ashobora kumufasha adashobora gukora aha babiri. Iyo bamenyereye gufashanya no gusangira ibyishimo by'imishyikirano yabo, baba barageze ku bwumvikane bukomeye, kandi ibyo byishimo bikababera urumuri bahora barangamiye mu buzima bwabo kugeza batandukanyijwe n'urupfu.

Ibyo bisaba kwihangana (mu minsi ya mbere y'ubugeni akenshi buri umwe agenzura ibyo akoze ko bishimisha mugenzi we: guhoberana, gukina, gusomana, …); ibyo iyo bimenyerewe bikorwa nk'ubufindo nta witayeho kureba icyo undi abitekerezahono , binasaba kubahana n'urukundo.

Umugore ufite amagara mazima kandi ukunzwe n'umugabo we nta kimubuza kwishimira umurimo w'urukundo cyane cyane igihe na we akunze umugabo. Mwene uwo, iyo imishyikirano itamunogeye arababara.Ashobora no kuba yikundira gusa udukino tubanziriza igikorwa cy'urukundo nyacyo, kandi ntibimubuze gufatanya n'umugabo we cyangwa se kumwihanganira muri icyo gikorwa.

Hari abagore bamwe babona ko umugabo yifuza kubashimisha byimazeyo,nabo bagasa nkaho bishyimye koko kandi Atari byo. Burya ngo biraruta, ndetse kenshi bituma umugabo n'umugore babana neza. Byerekana nibura ko umugore yishimiye urukundo muri uwo munezero. Byerekana kandi ko yumva icyo mugenzi amukeneyeho kandi ko yitwararitse kurangiza uruhare ashinzwe: gutera umugabo inkunga, akamuha umwanya n'uburyo bwo kugaragaza ubugabo bwe. Koko rero umugabo akunda ikintu cyose kimutera ishema n'ubwishongore. Biba bibi gusa iyo abonye ko rwose umugore atamwishimiye ahubwo ko amuryarya. 

Abahanga kandi bavuga ko umugore adakeneye kurangiza, aribyo kugera ku byishimo by'indunduro kugirango asame kandi abyare. Ibyo birajyana nuko abagore benshi batazi kurangiza cyangwa ibyishimo by'indunduro icyo ari cyo,uretse ko bagenekereza bakurikije ibyo bumvana abandi mu biganiro cyangwa bahereye ku bwumvumve biyumvira ubwabo: ibyo gusa!

Ingaruka zo kutagera ku byishimo birunduye ku mugore

Na none akamenyero ko kudashyikira ibyishimo by'indunduro buri gihe gashobora kumugirira nabi. Iyo umugabo amwegereye arashyuha, umubiri we wose ukikanga ukanguwe n'urugwiro n'ibineza neza amufitiye; icyo gihe umugabo yagomye kumushimisha ku buryo ibyishimo bye bigera ku ndunduro, akarangiza. Kuko iyo bitagenze gutyo biba bibi: buri gihe uko batangiye uwo muhango w'urukundo, ibyishimo biramusaga, ubwenge bwe bwose bugakanguka,ibinezaneza bikaba byinshi kuko aba yizeye kugeza ibyishimo ku ndunduro. Iyo abibuze ya mizero arapfapfana akababara, umubiri ugasuhererwa, umutima ugaserebera, akumva yinjiriwe. Ubwo mu mutima hakavuka igihu cy'ibitekerezo bibi, bimwoshya kuzinuka uwo mugabo udashoboye kumushimisha ngo amugeze ku munezero yari amwizeyeho. Ikindi umugore ntashobora kwifuturira impamvu y'ibyo bitekerezo bimwangisha umugabo .

Gupfukiranwa mu mishyikirano nk'iyo bitera inkeke, bigira n'izindi ngaruka mu mibereho ye no ku giti cye, bikamugaragaraho mu buryo bwinshi.

Inkurikizi z'izo ngaruka

Abaganga n'abacamanza bavuga ko bumva menshi mu makimbirane n'imanza z'abashakanye kandi atagirana isano n'I;pa;vu nyakuri ituma batumvikana ari yo: imishiyikirano yabo. 

Umugore agera mu Rukiko akarega umugabo we kuba indangare, injiji, kugira imico mibi, akamurega ubusinzi, ubugugu cyangwa gutagaguza. Akomeza avuga ko ntacyo yitaho cyo mu rugo,ko nawe ubwe atamwitaho (nyamara ntanasobanure n'impamvu n'aho bipfira). Akavuga ko yibera mu gakungu k'abamushuka, ageraho akamurega ko anywera itabi mu buriri, cyangwa ko ari igisambo, amaurga ko agera mu kiryamo agasoma ibinyamakuru, ko afungura radio ikamumena amatwi, akavuga ko ahora ajya gutera cyangwa kogeza umuira, ko atajya arya ibyo yatetse, ngo ntakunda abana,ngo yanga abaturanyi, ngo ntasura incuti,…. Yewe! Ari iby'umugabo avuga aribyo akora byose bimutera umwaga, rimwe na rimwe agakeka ko umugabo abikora nkana ngo amuhime,! Abo hirya bo bamwita ingare, ngo ni ukushizi w'isoni (ntabe akiswe Nyampinga), nyamara baba bata igihe kuko agahinda afite katagira urugero, kandi ntaho kaba gahuriye n'ibyo babona, kaba gashingiye ku bubabare bw'urusobekerane rw'imitsi y'umubiri wose na we ubwe adashobora gusobanura.

Mu mibanira y'abashakanye, amakimbirane ntabura, ariko! Nubwo "incident" yabazamo bakaremana inguma,urukundo rwabo ntiruhumana iyo imishyikirano yabo ishingiye ku bitsina inoze, hari igihe banarakaranya nk'umugabo amennye agacuma kavuye kwa sebukwe cg umugore ashatse korora inkoko hakavamo ko umugore yivumbura agasasa ubwe; nyamara uzi ubwenge yirinda iyo ngeso yo kwivumburira ikiryamo. Kwegerana byonyine bifasha umugore n'umugabo gucubya uburakari bakiyunga( mu buriri). Ikindi iyo basanganywe bene iyo mishyikirano bibagirwa vuba bene utwo tuntu tudashobora gucogoza urukundo n'umunezero basanganywe, kandi ni mu gihe kuko urwo rukundo n'umunezero basanganywe ni byo bibatera inkunga mu minsi mibi, na none utwo tuntu dushobora gusenya urusanzwe rwubatse ku musenyi.

Na none haba igihe umugore ahura n'ingorane zikomeye koko zaba izitewe n'abo bafitanye isano cyangwa se rubanda, maze ari we ari n'umugabo we zikabazahaza. Ubwo urukundo rwabo rushingiye ku bitsina narwo rukahazaharira. Ashobora kurenzaho akagerageza guhisha ububabare n'ubwivumbure afite, ariko ntibibura kumutamaza kandi bikamugaragaraho mu buryo bwinshi. Umugore ubabaye kandi wivumbuye ashobora gushakishiriza amahoro n'amahirwe mu bintu bidafitanye isano n'impamvu nyakuri yatumye yivumbura.

"Ashobora guhinduka umubyeyi ukabya gutetesha abana, agahorana igishyika ntagire amahoro igihe atababona iruhande rwe.Ahangayika ku tuntu twose ndetse n'utudafite umumaro, arararukarara, ugasanga umutima utakimuba mu nda. Byaba ibikomeye, byaba amafuti byose nta kitamukura umutima. Ashobora no guhinduriza imico, buri kantu kose akakanegura, ndetse akirata ntagire icyo ashima n'uwo ashima".

Akurizamo indwara

Hari n'ugerageza kurwanya ubwo burakari n'umwaga bimwaritsemo, akarya, akanywa noneho agakurizamo ubusambo no kubyibuha bikabije. Hari n'urwara indwara nyazo; agacika integer akabura ibitotsi, agaheta intugu, agasaza imburagihe! Hari urwara umutwe udakira, kugundirwa mu nda, cyangwa kugira amazi-nda. Yewe hari n'abarwara ibikanu, n'izindi ndwara zisesa ku mubiri (umubiri we uba wagize ubwivumbure) ndetse akenshi usanga bene abo bagore barwara cyane za rubagimpande, indwara z'ibifu, ibibyimba mu nda n'ibindi, kandi inkomoko yabyo ikaba mu rusobekerane rw'imitsi y'umubiri wose!

Nkuko abahanga mu miterere y'umubiri babivumbuye, umubiri ugizwe n'udutsi twinshi tutabarika, kandi buri gatsi kakagira umurimo wakagenewe. Iyo utwo dutsi dukora ubutitsa biba bibi. Nk'iyp umuntu arakaye, kabone n'iyo yarenzaho ntabigaragaze, hari udutsi twabigenewe dukangarana tukivumbagatanya kuko ari cyo dushinzwe. Iyo rero dukora ubutitsa tugeraho tukaruha tugatangira kononekara, noneho indwara z'amoko yose zikuririraho!

"Ni byiza kandi ni na ngombwa ko abagore bamenya imiterere y'umubiri, ibyo ukunda ibyo wanga, ingorane n'inkurikizi bikurikiraho, kuko akenshi mu muryango usanga ari we ibi byose byasobanuwe haruguru bigeraho cyane kabona nubwo umugabo we na we yaba yasogongeyeho kuri ibyo bizazane!"

Ku ruhande rw'umugabo na we agerwaho n'ingaruka

Si umugore gusa, iyo umugabo nawe adashyikira umunezero agamije arababara, ndetse akiheba. Arivumbura akabigaragaza ku buryo bwe bwa kigabo nyine. Ahindura imico akajya arakazwa n'ubusa, akantu kose kakamutera inabi, agasharira, akarushya (nk'ahazamuka), akitotomba ngo iwe nta gitungana! Ndetse yaba n'umwana we, bagenzi be, bose abona bamufudikira, akantu kose kabaye nubwo kaba koroheje abona ari ishyano riguye.Aratangira akanywa akarenza urugero rwe ndetse yabishobora ntatahe akajya arara iyo. Hari n'ugaragaza umubabaro we mu kazi, ndetse hakaba nubwo akabije bikamugwa nabi. Iyo izo mbaraga atazimariye ku murimo asanganywe azishora mu mushinga ukomeye cyangwa se agacudika n'undi /abandi bagore.

Akurizamo indwara

Igiteye impungenge kinababaje ni uko ashobora gufatwa gufatwa mu mitsi igenga ubugabo bwe bigatuma aba ikiremba. Na none , umugabo ntabura uburyo ahisha agahinda n'umubabaro afite, ariko uko byagenda kose, umutima we ntubura gushenguka. Bose n'umugore bakahashengukira kuko bombi ari uruti rumwe.

Inama /Impanuro

-Kugirango umugore avumbure ikibangamiye umunezero w'umutima we agomba kwimenya, akamenya umugabo we cyane cyane akamenya inzira akwiriye kunyuramo kugirango agere kuri uwo munezero. 

Ø Agomba no kumenya imico ya bombi mu byerekeye imishyikirano ishingiye ku

bitsina. Igihe ahuye n'ingorane ashobora gushakishiriza impamvu mu burere bwabo. Nubwo bitoroshye bwose, hari ibice bike umuntu ashobora guheraho akisuzumira ibyo ashoboye: 

-"Mu mavuko umuhungu n'umukobwa babeshwaho na nyina ubabyara kurusha se kuko nyina ari we uha uruhinja ibere, akarwuhagira, akarwitaho, akarurera rugakura, bituma rero umwana akunda nyina cyane ".

-Na none iyo umuhungu akomeje gukunda nyina akarinda aba ingaragu, urwo rukundo ni narwo akunda umugore we iyo amaze gushaka. 

-Abahanga bagaragaje ko mu busanzwe umukobwa abyiruka akunda is cyane akazaboneraho gukunda umugabo we. Hari igihe ise w'umukobwa atamwitaho mu irera rye kubera umwanya muke cyangwa se uburangare, ntashishikazwe no kumwereka urukundo n'impuhwe amufitiye nkuko umwana abyifuza, Ibyo rero bituma akari kera iyo umukobwa ashyingiwe, adashira amakenga ngo yizere koko urukundo rw'umugabo we. Nkuko kwigarurira urukundo rwa se byamushobeye akiri muto, ni nako ajijwa ntamenye uburyo abyifatamo ngo akundwe n'umugabo. Ntamenya icyo agomba gushyira imbere ngo akitwararike kugirango anononsore umurimo mu mibanire n'umugabo we. 

Ø Haba iyo umugore yisuzumye akamenya imbogamizi zimuzitiye kandi

akagerageza kuzirwanya, Niba umugore adashoboye kwifuturira impamvu zimubuza kugera ku munezero, ashobora kubiganirira muganga cyangwa undi muntu yizeyeho ubushobozi n'ubwitonzi.

Na none hari igihe umwana w'umukobwa aba yarateteshejwe na se bigakabya, mbese yishyira akizana , 

Ø mu ishyingirwa rye aba azi neza ko umugabo azamuha ukwezi n'ijuru!,

kugirango abashe kuvumbura ako kantu k'umuteto akarwanye bisaba ko aba ari

umunyabwenge kandi azi gusesengura ibintu n'ibindi!

-Akenshi umugore ababazwa kandi agira agahinda aterwa nuko abona ntacyo bimumariye guhora yihatira kubana neza n'umugabo we, akabona ari we wenyine wigomwa, wihangana, witota, wibabaza, akabona ari we wenyine uhagatwa ashaka umunezero wa bombi kandi umugabo yigaramiye, adashaka kubyivangamo ngo keretse gukora akazi ke nta kindi,

Ø Iyo yitonze akamwiga akanaperereza, akamenya ko akiri muto nyina atabashije 

kumwitaho ngo amwerek urukundo n'urugwiro nyina amufitiye nkuko umwana abikenera, kuko nibyo bituma iyo amaze gushaka yishisha umugore we ntamwizere rwose byo kumugaragariza urukundo amufitiye, ngo ejo atavaho amutamaza akamumerera nka nyina.

ü Urukundo, ubugwaneza, n'urugwiro umugore ahorana, nubwo yibwira ko bipfa 

ubusa kuko nta nyishyu yabyo abona, ni byo bihindura umugabo bigatuma ashira amakenga, agashyira umutima hamwe akagwa neza, akizera umugore we kandi akamukunda. Kuko umunezero umugore aharanira uzabashimisha bombi ku buryo buhebuje!

ü Umugore wese aberwa no kugira umutima woroshye, ugira ibambe n'ubwuzu, 

agomba kuba intwari cyane, akaba kandi intarambirwa ngo ejo atiheba naramuka ahuye n'ingorane nkizo cyangwa n'izindi zose z'urugo, akamenya n'ibindi ibishobora gutokoza urukundo cyangwa umubano wabo basanganywe, kugirango ashishakazwe no kubana n'umugabo we mu munezero, urtse ko hari ibyo atakwifuturira byasobanurwa n'abahanga mu miterere y'umubiri, ariko ibigaragarira buri wese akwiye kubimenya!

Kimwe muri ibyo bintu kandi gikomeye ni igipimo cy'urukundo buri muntu akeneye: buri wese afite mugerwa ihuje na kamere ye,

ü Umugore ushaka kurwubaka mu munezero n'ubudahemuka akwiriye kugena

igipimo cy'urukundo rwe ahereye ku cy'umugabo we, akaba ari cyo kimubera mugerwa, kuko abahanga bagaragaje ko ibitekerezo n'ubwugugu byerekeye ibitsina bitamuhora mu nda, ahubwo abiterwa n'umugabo we. 

ü Ntagomba gukurikiza ibitekerezo yiyumvamo cyangwa se yumvana abandi bagore.

ü Ntagomba kwishuka ngo ararikire ibyo yigeze gukora cyangwa kubona(mu

gihe atabigaragarije umugabo we ngo batangirane ikivi kuri icyo gikorwa 

gishyashya amwunguye).

ü Agomba kwifatanya na we kugirango ibyo bashoboye bibe byiza kurushaho.

v Iyo abashakanye babishyizeho ubwitonzi, uko iminsi ihita niko

imishyikirano yabo igenda irushaho kubabera UBUKI kandi buri wese akayinezererwamo bitagira urugero.

ü Amagara mazima nayo ni ngombwa kugirango abashakanye banoze

ubwumvikane bwabo, bahuze urugwiro bityo igikorwa cy'imishyikirano ishingiye ku bitsina kigende neza ntawe uhavunikiye, ndetse ahora yitwararitse uko we, abana n'umugabo we bakora kandi bakaruhuka.

Ø Umugore ugeze mu rwe ashimishwa no guteka neza kuko aba akunze

umugabo we kandi ashaka kumushimisha, kugirango amwereke ubuhanga bwe ateka byinshi binyuranye, maze bakabirya batabibariye, 

ü Nyamara umugore ugamije kubaka aragereranya kugirango ibyishimo by'inda bitaganza umunezero wo gushyikirana no gushimisha imitima kandi Imana yarabitugabiye.

Ø Umugabo ugaburiwe cyane birenze arabyibuha ntiyongere gushabuka nka 

mbere, umwete yahoranaga mu mishyikirano y'urukundo uragabanuka, rimwe na rimwe umugore akibwira ko atakimukunda, akamukeka amababa ngo ahari yaba yigira mu bandi bagore, cyangwa akibwira ko ibyabanje byari agahararo, ahubwo ikintu cyose kigira urugero rwacyo.

ü Amajyambere mu by'imirire no guteka yarasakaye, umugore ashobora

kwigishwa uko ategura amafunguro mu rwego rwo gutunga urugo rwe (akenshi

ntibinahenze) atibagiwe n'umunezero w'umugabo n'uwe bwite, ihame ridakuka ni

uko buri wese akeneye gukunda no gukundwa kandi biruzuzanya.

Ø Abagore benshi bagira ingorane zituruka kuri kamere yabo zikababuza guhimbaza 

umurimo wabo mu mishyikirano ishingiye ku bitsina. Igisa n'icyo ni kigatsindwe! kiba kigamije kumusenyera,

Ø Guhindura imico no kugira umwaga bya buri kwezi ubwabyo bishobora 

gusembura umugabo uwo ari we wese nubwo yaba tauza nk'intama, ararambirwa akivumbura, akarakara, noneho nawe agakurizamo guhindura imico,

Ø Habaho umugore uhorana umucyo azi no guterurana ikivi n'umugabo we, 

nyamara ukwezi kwe kwaba kwegereje agatangira kwijima, akagira agahinda kagaragara, akantu kose kakamutesha umutwe, agakangarana, ndetse ugasanga yashinze iryinyo ku rindi, cyangwa agasa n'indangare akagira amazinda bikabije, agira Impinduka ku bintu byinshi bitarondowe hano…agarura moral iyo imihango ngaruka kwezi ibonetse, akagarura ubugwaneza n'urugwiro asanganywe.

ü Buri mugore akwiye kumenya kubibaho kandi nta wubihuza n'undi akisuzuma 

abyitayeho kugirango niba bimubaho agerageze kwiramira no kwiyumanganya muri iyo minsi, birasaba n'umugabo we kubimufashamo aho bidashobotse akamwihanganira bakabiganiraho babyunguranaho inama ku cyakorwa.

ü Birakwiye ku mugore wese kwitwararika isuku muri byose , ariko cyane cyane 

imyanya ndangagitsina, kugirango yitegure imibonano mpuzabitsina nta yindi mpumuro yumvikanamo atari iy'igituba: birababaza kuba ibyavuwze haruguruubyujujwe ariko ibyishimo n'umunezero ukabibuzwa n'isuku udakorera umubiri wawe!

UMWANZURO: Ndibwira ko nubwo ari byinshi ariko bivunaguye ntawe byarambira gusobanukirwa cyane agamije kugira ibyishimo n'umunezero" birambye" nacyane ko ntawanze kubigira, nibanze cyane ku bagore nuko ari bo mutima w'urugo, kandi ngo umukurusha aba akurusha urugo, muri rusange byari intangiriro kugirango ubutumwa buzakurikiraho bujye busanga amayira yaraharuwe.

Ndashishikaza ba Nyampinga kutitinya bagatanga ibitekerezo byabo kugirango bishyirwe ahagaragara bigirire bose akamaro (Umwambaro w'abakobwa-gukuna; uko wakwifata mu gihe uwagushimye asanze utanyara; ….) dore ko hari uba akeneye kugira icyo ahinduraho akenshi akahakura ubugororangingo!

Murakoze!

Ni La toute 

Umukunzi n'inshuti ya Blog igituba!

Biracyaza….

Ndagukunda mu Ndimi Zinyuranye

2008-12-15T04:45:00.000-08:00

Afrikaans - Ek is lief vir jou

Albanian - te dua

Arabic - Ana Ahebak / Ana Bahibak

Armenian - yes kez shat em siroom

Assyr- Az tha hijthmekem

Alentejano(Portugal) - Gosto De Ti, Porra!

Bahasa Malayu - (Malaysia) Saya cinta mu

Basque - Maite Zaitut

Bengali - Ami Tomake Bahlobashi

Bavarian - I mog di

Bisaya - Nahigugma ko nimo

Bosnian - Ja te volim (formally) or volim-te

Bulgarian - Obicham te

Bulgarian - Obicham te

Burmese- chit pa de

Cantonese - Ngo Oi Nei

Chinese - gnoy oy na
Goi Oi Lei (Hongkong)
Wa Ai Li (Taiwan)

Cambodian - Bon sro lanh oon

Catalan - T'estim (mallorcan)

Croatian - LJUBim te

Czech - miluji te

Danish- Jeg elsker dig

Dutch - Ik hou van jou

English - I love you

Esperanto - Mi amas vim

Estonian - Ma armastan sind / Mina armastan sind (formal)

Farsi - Tora dust midaram

Filipino - Mahal ka ta

Finnish - Minä rakastan sinua

French - Je t'aime

Gaelic - Tá mé i ngrá leat

German - Ich liebe Dich

Greek - S'agapw

Greenlandic - Asavakit

Gujrati - Hoon tane pyar karoochhoon

Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia 'oe

Hebrew - Ani ohevet ota

Hindi - Main tumsey pyaar karta hoon / Maine Pyar Kiya

Hmong - Kuv Hlub Koj

Hungarian - Szeretlek

Hokkien - Wa ai lu

Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta

Icelandic - Eg elska thig

Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu

Italian - ti amo

Indian - Mai tumase pyar karata hun (male to female) Mai tumase pyar karati hun (female to male)

Irish - taim i' ngra leat

Japanese - Aishiteru

Javanese - Kulo tresno marang panjenengan (formal)
aku terno kowe (informal)

Kapangpangan - Kaluguran daka.

Kinyarwanda- Ndagukunda

Kirundi-Ndagukunda

Korean - SA LANG HAE / Na No Sa Lan Hei

Kurdish - Khoshtm Auyt

Laos - Chanrackkun

Latin - Ego te amo

Latvian - Es mîlu Tevi

Lithuanian - As Myliu Tave

Lebanese - Bahibak

Lingala - Nalingi yo

Lojban - mi do prami

Luo - Aheri

Macedonian - Te sakam

Mandarin - Wo Ai Ni

Malteese - Inhobbok hafna

Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Saya cinta mu

Norwegian - Jeg elsker deg

Persian - Tora Doost Darem

Pig Latin - I-yea Ove-lea Ou-yea

Polish - Kocham Cie

Portuguese - Eu te amo (Brazilian)
Eu amo-te (continental)

Punjabi - me tumse pyar ker ta hu'

Romanian - Te iubesc

Russian - Ya tebya liubliu

Serbo-Croatian - Volim te

Xangana- Nakurandza

Sign language -
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Slovenian - ljubim te

Swedish - Jag älskar dig

Swiss German - Ch-ha di gärn

Spanish - Te quiero / te amo / yo amor tu

Swahili - Nakupenda

Tagalog - Mahal Kita / Iniibig kita

Tamil - Naan Unnai Khadalikkeren

Telugu - Nenu Ninnu Premisthunnanu

Thai - Khao Raak Thoe / chun raak ter

Turkish - seni seviyorum

Ukranian - Yalleh blutebeh / ya tebe kohayu

Urdu - Mea tum se pyaar karta hu ( when a guy says it)
Mea tum se pyar karti hu (when a gal says it)

Vietnamese - Toi yeu em

Vulcan - Wani ra yana ro aisha

Yugoslavian - Ya te volim

Zazi - Ezhele hezdege

Zulu - Mena Tanda Wen

UTURANGO TW'UBWIZA TW'UMUGORE

2008-12-08T00:18:00.000-08:00

UTURANGO TW'UBWIZA TW'UMUGORE
par Bangambiki

Biragoye gusobanura ubwiza. Kuko biterwa n'amaso n'umutima by'ureba. Uwo ubona ko ari mwiza nshobora kubona atanshimishije ariko muri rusange icyiza kiba kigaragara kandi abantu benshi bakacyumvikanaho ko ari cyiza. Ubwiza bukunze kuvugwa ku bagore cyane kuko ari zo mbaraga zabo.

IJWI:

"Imvugo ye ni umurebe w’impundu"-Rugamba

"Ni impundu z’umurangi
Zikiranya n’insengo
Zasobetse n’urugunda."-Rugamba

Ijwi ni akarango k'ubwiza k'umugore. Umugore ufite akajwi keza k'abagore gasobanutse kamwongerera gukundwa kurusha ufite ijwi nk'iry'abagabo.

AMABERE

"Naho igituza cy’umutabonda
Kirimo urwogere rw’imitari."-Rugamba

"Kandi amabere ni amahembe"-bangambiki

Ibice by'umubiri w'umugore byo konsa umwana bikaba n' akarango k'ubwiza.

IJOSI

"Naho ubwo rya josi ry' umutarati,
Uko yariteretse ngo andangamire,
Agasa na ya nkuba ya Rusine
Ikoreye ishaka kuvuna sambwe."-Rugamba

UMUSATSI:

-"Reba umusatsi ni umusana"- Bangambiki

"Umusatsi uyumbuje nk' umusereko
Uva mu ruhanga uhunda ibitugu"-Rugamba

"Umusatsi wose ni umusana,
Ni urugege ruzira ingingo
Ni urugeregere rw’uburanga,
Ni igisingizo cy’umudasumbwa."-Rugamba

Umusatsi mwinshi muremure ni ishema ry'abagore n'abakobwa. Naho umusatsi mubi w'injwiri ni igisebo gikomeye.

AMARIBORI:

"Inyange yariboye umusubizo
Mu rukenyero imbibi ziraka
Kandi ingondo zimugonyeye ho
Zamurangije mu ngingo"

Ni utuntu tumeze nk'ubusharure dukunze kuboneka mu ntege, ku nda,ibibero by'umukobwa cyangwa umugore. Ni akarango k'ubwiza,abagore barabikunda n'abagabo bakabishima.

INTEGE

Ni akarango k'ubwiza k'umugore. Abagore benshi bakunze kuzerekana. Kandi abafite intege nziza barabigendera. Mu ntege banahita "mu bikari"

UMUKONDO

Inkovu y'aho umwana aba afataniye na nyina akiri mu nda. Iyo hatakebwe neza inkovu ntimera neza ahubwo haza iromba.

Gukora ku mukondo:Guhuza igitsina
Urugero:Ndifuza kugukora ku mukondo.
Umukondo ni akarango k'ubwiza bw'abagore. Abagore cyangwa abakobwa biyubashye bakunze guhisha umukondo wabo mu gihe abakunda kurata ubwiza bwabo bawushyira ahagaragara. Mu guhuza igitsina umukondo ufite akamaro cyane kuko ari ipfundo ry'imyakura ngengagitsina. Gukorakora umugore ku mukondo bituma yumva uburyohe bwinshi.

AMASO

"Reba amaso ni inyenyeri"-Bangambiki

"Nsanga amaso ateretse inkesha,
Akina ibinyonga by' urunyenyeri."-Rugamba

"Amaso ni urubera rw’inkesha,
Kandi yuzuyemo ibinyonga
Akarusha ay’inyana urunyenyeri."-Rugamba

Gutereka Amaso:uburyo abakobwa n'abagore barebamo bareshya abagabo.

URUHANGA

"Agira uruhanga rw’uruhebuza,
Nturuhanga ngo urushye uhumbya
N’iyo uhungiwe n’amahindu
Ahubwo uremera akaguhonda."-Rugamba

INGOHE

"Ingohe ze ni irangamutuzo,
Ni uruterero rw’abatoya."-Rugamba

IZURU

"Izuru ni imbuga y’urutonde,"-Rugamba

AMATAMA

"Amatama yose itoto riragwa."-Rugamba

IMISAYA

"Naho urusizi rw’umususuruko
Rusesuye imisaya yose."-Rugamba

AMENYO

"Amenyo ni inono izira inenge
Ni amasimbi y’urubugurizo"-Rugamba

INDORO

"Indoro ye ni uruhogozambyeyi,"-Rugamba

INGENDO

"Ingendo ni urugororangingo,"-Rugamba

INDESHYO

"Indeshyo ni ijuru ry’umurere,"-Rugamba

UMUBIRI

"Umubiri wose ni ndebunyurwe."-Rugamba

AMABOKO

"Amaboko yose ni imibanga
Agira ibizigira by’ubukombe,"-Rugamba

URUTOKI

"Urutoki rwose ni urutunda"-Rugamba

IMBAVU

"Imbavu ze ni imbandagihumbi,
Ni imitende itatse indinda."-Rugamba

INDA

"Mu nda ni urutembanshyushyu
Ni umurere warezwe n’inka
Hose yitwa umwogabyano."-Rugamba

INSEKO

"Inseko ikeye umusanganya
Ubonye ukwezi kubanduye."-Rugamba

"Inseko yawe ni umuseso"-Rugamba

rugamba,inseko,ukwezi,amenyo,ubwiza,umugore,umukobwa,amaso,umukondo,intege,umusatsi,amabere

Umuntu Yamenya Ate Ko Umukobwa Amukunda

2008-12-08T00:16:00.000-08:00

Umuntu Yamenya Ate Ko Umukobwa Amukunda

Kugira ngo umenye ko umukobwa agukunda hari ibimenyetso akora byerekana ko agukunda

-akubaha uko uri:arashima,agushima uko akubona.Ushobora kuba hari aho ufite intege nke ariko akagukunda abizi

-ntagusaba ibyo udafite: bisigaye byarateye ko abakobwa bamara gukundana n'abahungu bagatangira kubagerekaho imtwaro. Umukobwa ugukunda ubona ntacyo agutegerejeho usibye urukundo umukunda

-ntagira ishyari: umukobwa ugukunda urukundo rw'ukuri ntaguterera induru ngo akubuze amahoro ngo uganira n'abandi bakobwa, ubona akwizeye kandi yiteguye kuguha uburenganzira bwawe.

-igitangaje ni uko umukobwa ugukunda ashobora kukwemerera mugakora byose b'urukundo ariko agatinya ko mwahuza igitsina( aba yanga ko urukundo rwanyu rwakwicwa no gupfundura agaseke hakiri kare harimo nuko ushobora kumutera inda mukiri bato urukundo n'imibereho bikangirika.)

Urukundo gusa ni amayobera byose bisaba gushishoza umusore n'inkumi bakirinda guhubuka, turabizi ko amaraso aba ashyushye kandi urubyiruko rumeze nk'impumyi ku bibazo birwugarije.

IBIBAZO BY'IGITSINA N'ABABYEYI

2008-12-07T23:48:00.000-08:00

IBIBAZO BY'IGITSINA N'ABABYEYI

NJYA NUMVA PAPA YENDA MAMA

Njye na murumuna wanjye turara mu kindi cyumba na ba papa mu kindi cyumba, ariko harimo idirishya rinini rimwe batajya bafunga. Iyo tumaze kuryama hashira akanya batekereza ko twasinziriye nkumva bigiriye mu byabo ntarasinzira, mama agatangira akaniha cyane, bakabwirana ukuntu biryoshye,nkumva ndashyutswe cyane, nkumva nanjye nasimbukirayo none nsigaye nkora uko nshoboye ngo papa abone ko nanjye ndi inkumi!

Bangambiki:Iyo ni imwe mu mpamvu ishobora gutuma umukobwa yendwa na se. Ndumva umaze gukura, ushobora kwanga rwose kurara hafi yabo bakagushakira ahandi higiyeyo, gusa na none ikibazo cy'amikoro kibifitemo uruhare. Ariko kubumva ni bibi ku buzima bwawe.

PAPA ANKORA MU IGITUBA

Njye mbana na papa gusa mama ari mu mahanga ariko papa buri gihe arankubita kuko iyo aje anjyana muri douche akamanura ikariso yanjye agakoza urutoki mu gituba cyanjye akarunyereka hariho utuntu tumeze nka fromage maze akankubita urushyi, akagenda; nta muhungu nsambana nawe mbigire nte?
Hari nubwo aza agasaka mu gikapu yanjye mvuye ku ishuri yasangamo udupapuro akadusoma akimyoza akagenda kandi azana umukobwa mwene wabo na mama ninjoro bagakinga icyumba nkegera urugi nkumva ari gutaka none mbigire nte?

Bangambiki: Jya ubyirengagiza. Ariko ibyo kugukora mu gituba byo ni ibyo kwitonderwa. Uzamubwire ko utabishaka ko niba akeka ko hari ikibazo azagutware kwa muganga. Iby'umwanda bishobora kuba ari urwitwazo rwo kugukora mu igituba kandi kuko mama wawe adahari bishobora kumufasha kurangiza ibibazo bye. Abana benshi b'abakobwa bakunze guhohoterwa na ba se n'abandi bantu b'igitsina gabo bo mu muryango. Ugomba kwitonda kandi ukagira ikinyabupfura kuko ari so ariko ukamubwira icyo utekereza.

INKURU BISA

1.Guhuza Igitsina n'Uwo Muhuje Amaraso

2.Guhuza Igitsina n'Uwo Muhuje Amaraso I

3.Guhuza Igitsina n'Uwo Muhuje Amaraso II

4.Guhuza Igitsina n'Uwo Muhuje Amaraso III

PAPA ARASAMBANA AKANYICISHA IZUBA

Njye buri gihe papa ansiga mu modoka akajya mu nzu y'umugore utuye mu yindi quartier izuba rikanyica akangeza mu rugo nashonje kandi yaza akagenda antuka ngo ndi umuswa nzabibwire mama?

Bangambiki:uzabwire so areke guhemukira nyoko. Ibyo ari byo byose uri mukuru kuba ubibona no kubaza kino kibazo, ndumva ufite bimwe mu bisubizo kuri cyo, gusa ugomba kubigendamo neza kuko ushobora guteranya ababyeyi-bari basanzwe batizerana birumvikana.

INKURU BISA

1.Kuki Igituba cy'Ikibano Kiryoha?

2.Guswera Indayi

UBURYO 5 BWO GUTUMA UMUGABO AKOMEZA KUGUKUNDA

2008-12-07T01:36:00.000-08:00

UBURYO 5 BWO GUTUMA UMUGABO AKOMEZA KUGUKUNDA
par Bangambiki

Iby'urukundo ntibyoroshye wa mugani wa wa muririmbyi. Ntawe uyobewe umuriro w'urukundo mu minsi ya mbere. Ni iminsi idahoraho, iminsi y'ibisigo,iminsi y'urukumbuzi, iminsi yo kurebana akana ko mu jisho.

Ariko igihe kijya kigera, amazi agatuza, serwakira igacaho, inyanja igatuza, amaso akabona,amatwi akumva, ukabona burya ko uwo ukunda atari umumarayika wavuye mu ijuru, ahubwo ari umuntu w'inyama n'amaraso muhuje ibibaza kandi mukeneye bimwe. Nibwo umenya ko burya arya, akeneye amafaranga, arwara, arakara, ndetse, ndetse...ashobora kureba hirya akabona yo umukobwa ukurusha uburanga!

Aha ndagira ngo nkomoze ku bintu utagomba kwirengagiza niba wifuza ko ikibatsi cy'urukundo gihora cyaka, nubwo yareba hirya ntahabone ibyiza bikuruta!

1.Muhe Icyubahiro:mwereke ko umwubashye. Mwereke ko ari umwami mu buzima bwawe. Ko avuga rikijyana. Ibyo avuze byose jya ubyemera n'ikimenyetso cy'umutwe. Jya umutera imbaraga igihe yacitse intege isi itamwumva. Ntukigaragaze nk'ushaka kumugira inama y'ibyo akora cyangwa ngo umuhinyuze mu bitekerezo bye.Jya umwemerera ko amafuti y'umugabo ari bwo buryo bwe.Mureke avuge uko ashaka utamuciye mu ijambo.Jya umubwira ko ari igitangaza, ko afite imbaraga kandi ko ibyo agambira azabigeraho. Niba afite ibibazo muterere agaparu aseke. Ibi ni byo burya buri mugabo wese yifuza kandi iyo aguhunga ajya mu ndayi ni byo aba ashaka yo, nubwo bwose nta byo abonayo. Iyo ushoboye kumvisha umugabo ko uri umugore wubaha kandi umwumva ntacyo yakugurana.

2.Iyiteho:Abagore benshi bamara gutaha mu nzu bati "uwo nari ndwaje ndamuhuhuye!" Hehe n'agasabune, hehe n'igisokozo, hehe n'akabuye ko kwica amaga-wa mugani wa Christophe Matata. Igihe uri mu rugo imbere y'umugabo wawe, jya witondera ibi:Itunganye wiyiteho ku mubiri. Wambare imyenda igezweho kandi migufi. Umugabo aba ashaka kureba intege, umukondo n'ahandi.Ushobora kwitesha akantu ukagatora, akareba uko wariboye!Ushobora kumufata mu kiganza, cyangwa ukamwegama mu gatuza. Menya ka parfum kawe.Abagabo bakunda umugore uhumura neza. Umugore ni ururabo.

3. Irinde Incyuro. Irinde guhora ucyurira umugabo amakosa n'ubuhemu yakugiriye kera. Ibi bituma yifuza kuguhunga ngo agire amahoro

4.Itegure Imibonano Mpuzagitsina

Guhuza igitsina ni igihe cyo kwinezeza no kuruhuka. Ni ibintu umugore akwiye kwitegura no guha agaciro kugira ngo birusheho gushimisha. Si byiza ko umugaboagusoma ngo asange unuka mu kanwa, cyangwa ngo nubumbura amaguru asange hanuka. Hari abagore badategura igituba ku buryo kinuka.
Umugore bashoboraga kumusenda kubera kutiyitaho.

5.Ntukiremereze:Hari abagore biremereza, wamukoraho ntaze vuba, akabanza kwiraza i Nyanza agira ngo winginge. Ntukuke umugabo inabi ngo "mvaho ndiruhiye" cyangwa ngo "ntabyo nshaka." Icyo gihe courage y'umugabo ihita ibura. Nubwo yaba yari yashyutswe yiteguye guswera imboro ihita igwa. Ubwo rero nubwo noneho wahindukira imboro ye ukayitera inkingi ntiyahagarara!Aba yazinutswe. Nta kintu kibi nk'umugabo wazinutswe! Ibitekerezo byinshi bimuzenguruka mu mutwe kandi nta wamenya icyo bybyara. Abagabo burya bazi ubwenge si ibigoryi nk'uko abagore bamwe bakeka. K'umugabo washyutswe kwikinisha no gusohora biba hafi, gusuzugura umugabo bishobora kumusunikira mu kwikinisha ku buryo yumva biryoshye kurusha igituba cyawe.

Uburyo bwo kubwira umukobwa ko umukunda

2008-12-07T01:07:00.001-08:00

Uburyo bwo kubwira umukobwa ko umukunda
par Bangambiki

Nibucya mwaraye mumenyanye uzamuhamagare

Naguterera igiparu uzaseke

Mubwire ko ujya umukumbura

Mutelefone umubwire ko wari urimo kumutekerezaho

Muture umuvugo

Byinana na we

Mushyire uturabo nta mpamvu igaragara

Mwandikire akabaruwa ko kumusuhuza

Ntukibagirwe anniversaire ye kandi umushyire akantu kamushimishije

Igihe murimo kuganira mutungure umusome

Musohokane ku kagoroba ni bwira mwirebere inyenyeri

Mubwire akabanga utarabwira undi muntu

Mubwire ukuntu ari igitego mu bakobwa

Mubwire ko umukunda

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA III

2008-12-07T00:19:00.001-08:00

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA III

IBYO MARTHA ATABWIRA UMUGABO WE

Martha w'imyaka 34 akora muri sosiyete ya Publicite, hashize imyaka 8 ashakanye na Michel w'imyaka 35. Martha avuga ko akeneye umwanya w'utubanga twe.

"Sinjya mbwira Michel iby'inshuti zanjye z'abagabo. Nta nubwo azi amafaranga mpembwa. Hari ibintu bibiri n'ababyeyi banjye batazi usibye na Michel:ikarita yanjye ya banque, na compte yanjye. Nta nubwo nigeze mbwira Michel ko nakinnye akazungu. Nta mafaranga natakaje nta n'ayo nungutse ariko ntabyo namubwiye. Iyo nza kubimubwira byari kuzana amatiku gusa. " Martha na Michel bafitanye umuwana umwe, kandi bafite inzu yabo. Babayeho neza mu buryo bugaragara bwo hanze.

"Imibanire yacu y'igitsina imeze neza ariko gusa nuko rimwe na rimwe nuko iyo turimo guhuza igitsina mba nitekerereza ku bandi bagabo dukorana ku kazi!"
Mu myaka umunani Martha amaranye n'umugabo ni nako afite umukunzi ku ruhande, Alphonse na we wubatse, bamaranye imyaka 6 bakundana! Alphonse yageze aho atandukana n'umugore we, nyuma arongera arashaka ariko Martha avuga ko nta shyari yagize."Nanjye mfite umugabo. Ariko ndumva amaherezo yanje ari Alphonse"

Nyuma yaho Martha yaje gukundana na Richard bahuriye kuri internet, nyuma Richard amubwiye aho atuye asanga ari hafi bahura bigashoboka "ariko natekereje ko ndamutse ngiye tutaba tugiye kuvuga gusa, ahubwo ko twaryamana, natekereje ko nshobora kuba ntari umugore wa mbere yaba ahuye na we, ntekereza kuri Michel n'umwana wacu numva ko mbikoze naba ndushenye. Nyamara ariko buri gihe iyo ndimo guhuza igitsina na Michel mba nirebera Richard mu maso!"

MARTHA VS MICHEL

Ibyo umugabo abona

-umugore mwiza umukunda
-nyina w'abana

Ibyo umugabo adashobora gutekereza ko byabaho

-ko amukundiraho undi mugabo hashize imyaka 6
-ko yahuye n'umugabo mu biganiro bya internet
-ko atamuhisha umushahara we

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA III

2008-12-07T00:19:00.000-08:00

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA I

2008-12-07T00:18:00.001-08:00

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA I

IBYO MARIYA ATABWIRA UMUGABO WE

Ana afite imyaka 37, umunsi umwe yarimo aganira n'umugabo we wari wamusohokanye muri hoteli nziza. Ikiganiro cyabo cyari gishyushye kandi cyuzuye urugwiro. Ariko ntibari babiri gusa ahubwo bari batatu. Uwa gatatu ntiyabonekaga. Pierre yakomezaga kwandikira Ana za SMS muri telefone ye Nokia, nawe Ana agasoma amwenyura umugabo we akagira ngo ni urugwiro! Ubwo umukunzi wa Ana yamwandikiraga za message amutegerereje hafi y'ikibuga cy'indege aho yamubwiraga ati "Wibuke ka Kajipo kagufi, nta mugore mwiza ndabona nkawe!" Ubwo Ana yasomaga izo message agahita azisiba mu gihe nyamugabo, umwarimu wo muri Universite w'imyaka 40 yari yiyegamiye mu ntebe yisomera ku kirahuri ke atuje.

Ana kugira ngo asubize umukunzi yarahagurutse ajya muri toilette yandika sms asubiza umukunzi. Umugabo ntiyigeze arabukwa uwo mukino."Iyo umugabo aza kuvumbura iyo mikino sinzi aho nari gukwirwa!"

Ana amaranye imyaka 9 n'umugabo we Louis kandi bafitanye abana babiri umwe w'imyaka 5 undi w'imyaka 7. Ana yivugira ko atumva akunze cyane Louis mu rwego rwo guhuza igitsina kuko iyo barimo guhuza igitsina aba arimo kwitekerereza ko ari Pierre barimo kubikorana. Ibi abashakashatsi bakaba bavuga ko ari ibisanzwe ku bagore benshi. Mu bushakashatsi bwakozwe n'ikinyamakuru cyo muri Amerika cyitwa Woman's Day, ngo 76% by'abagore bitekerereza ku bandi bagabo iyo baryamanye n'uwo bashakanye! Abagore kandi ibyo babihisha abagabo.

Ana avuga ko n'ubwo akundana na Pierre batarahuza igitsina ariko avugako yifuza ko nibura uwamuha ubushobozi yakwifungirana na we mu cyumba cy'ihoteli akamukorera ibyo ashaka."Icyampa akandongora anyegetse ku rukuta!"

Ana akunda kwandikirana message n'umukunzi we "Umunsi umwe nari nicaye muri salon ari ku mugoroba twenda kujya kuryama, mbanza kwandikira message Pierre, mpita nsizirira ko nyuma nicuriye mu kirere ntekereza ko umugabo wanjye yaba yasomye izo message, by'amahirwe nasanze nari nabanje kuzisiba! Ariko iyo aza kuzisangamo byari kuba birangiye!"

Nyamara umugabo ntacyo akeka ni n'inshuti ya Pierre, ntatekereza ko hari affaire Pierre yaba afitanye n'umugore we."Bijya bintangaza iyo mbabonye bari kumwe basabana, umugabo wanjye atazi icyo ntekereza kuri Pierre."

Umushakashatsi w'umunyamerika mu mibanire y'abashakanye Shirley Glass avuga ko abagabo benshi cyane 80% by'abagabo badatekereza ko umugore ashobora kubaca inyuma .Mu gihe 90% y'abagore bakeka ko umugabo ashobora kuba afite "affaire" kandi akenshi akaba ari byo.

ANA NA LOUIS

Ibyo umugabo abona

-umugore mwiza ukunda umugabo
-umugore usohokana n'umugabo akamenya kuganira

Ibyo umugabo adakeka ko byashoboka

-ko umugore yandikirana n'umukunzi we sms z'urukundo akenshi imbere ye basohokanye!

tags-gusambana,kubaka urugo,urugo ruhire,igitsina,igituba

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA I

2008-12-07T00:18:00.000-08:00

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA II

2008-12-07T00:16:00.001-08:00

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA II

IBYO CLAUDIA ATABWIRA UMUGABO WE

Claudia,afite imyaka 40 ni umukangurambaga, hashize imyaka 3 ashakanye na Charles w'imyaka 25. Bahuriye muri bar umunsi umwe baraganira,barakundana, nyuma barabana.
"Njya kumushaka yarambeshye, yambwiye ko afite imyaka 29 nyamara yari afite 22! Nyuma y'ukwezi kumwe tubana navumbuye ukuri. Ntiyigeze aterwa ubwoba nuko murusha imyaka. Yumvaga ari inyungu kuba abonye umugore ukuze uzi ubuzima kandi utakijya mu by'abato. Nyamara ntakamenye ko mu buzima bwanjye nari narishwe n'ibiyobyabwenge, nkaza kubivaho mfashijwe n'abaganga. Nta byo nigeze mubwira, narikumubwira iby'iki?"
"Ubu tubanye neza, ariko iyo ngiye gutembera mu mujyi hari igihe ndarayo ndi kumwe n'inshuti zanjye za kera, nkamubeshya ko naraye mu rugo rw'undi mudamu w'inshuti yanjye, ko nta kibazo. Yarabimenyereye!"

"Njye na Charles ntidukunda ibintu bimwe. Njye nkunda kwitemberera muri za Bibliotheques, hari nubwo mba nifuza ko twaganira ibintu byinshi, ariko agatima kakambwira ko afite imyaka 25. Icyatumye mushaka ni uko nari mfite imyaka 37 ntarashaka kandi ndambiwe no kuba njyenyine. Nashatse Charles kuko natekerezaga ko atazantesha umutwe, ko atazivanga mu buzima bwanjye. Ikindi ntiyari azi amateka yanjye. Ariko simbona ko imibanire yacu hari icyo izageraho. Umusore w'imyaka 25 n'umugore w'imyaka 40, ntibikunze kuramba!"

CLAUDIA NA CHARLES

Ibyo umugabo abona

-umugore ukuze uzi ubwenge. Ushobora gutembera akararayo bitewe n'impamvu zinyuranye, ariko yabibwiye umugabo kandi akarara ku nshuti ye y'umugore.

Ibyo umugabo adatekereza ko byabaho

-ko uyu mugore yari yarishwe n'ibiyobyabwenge agakizwa n'abaganga,
-ko uyu mugore amusambaniraho kenshi,
-ko uyu mugore amubona nk'umwana utazi ubwenge.

AMABANGA Y'ABAGORE-IBYO UMUGORE WAWE AGUHISHA II

2008-12-07T00:16:00.000-08:00

Blog z'Igituba no Guswera

2008-08-31T09:58:00.000-07:00

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2008-08-31T09:44:00.001-07:00